Hello,

I've recently gotten married, and I realize that the health goals of both myself and my wife are (as I suspected anyway), completely different. If she could, she'd not exercise. She comes from a highly CW background and I have gotten into several discussion with her mother about my beliefs in nutrition, and I don't think those ever gave me positive or negative brownie points, but definitely reaffirmed their belief that I am fairly strong-willed in my beliefs. Bread, wheat, beans, sugar, as long as it's from fruit, what's the problem? It's all natural! My response of "well, arsenic is natural but you don't see me drinking it and claiming that's good for me," wasn't the wisest choice to use with both my wife and my mother-in-law.

So far she has she has done well on going away from the CW mindset, and our eating isn't bad. Occasionally go with some chocolate here and there, but over all we keep clean. I'm lean, trying to gain back muscle and a level of fitness I haven't had for over a year. I've maintained the primal way of eating, just not so much the exercise part. I know what I need to do and it's no issue, but I am curious about what would be caloric and nutritional standards. My goals aren't to gain any size, but I'm (or was) fairly active. Sprint once a week, squats, headstand pushups against a wall, pullups, and planks three times a week. I never did them all at once, but I jumbled them together for about 30-45 minutes a day. I'm a creature of habit and when I find something I like I pretty much eat it and don't get tired of it.

I'm looking to build a little muscle back and maintain it, but if not I'm actually extremely content with my body composition and just working on being more active like I once was.Although, I admit I've never been great at working out how much I need to eat daily to not burn myself out. I'm 23, 151lb, and 5'11. I've always had a lean/skinnier build. My wife says I was a little bigger when we first started dating, but I got sick one summer and I lost 10 lbs (of something, and I'm pretty sure a bit of it was muscle) and have been 151 ever since. Although, I've curtailed my eating habits to healthy food and not everything in sight. It was my pre Primal life.

In the morning I eat 4-5eggs with 1-2tbs (100-200cap) of butter, so I get about 480-550 cal and 24-30g of protein in the morning. Sometimes I throw some cheese or sausage, like this morning I have about 41g of protein and 750cal for breakfast. I consider these special days.

Lunch, I typically skip. I drink a lot of water during the rest of the day.

Dinner: beef, pork, chicken, turkey ect. Because I skip lunch I have a bigger dinner, and if I had to guesstimate (because this morning was the first time I actually figured out how much I eat), I eat betwee 6-8oz of meat a night with vegetables (green, sometimes adding carrots), once or twice a week basimati rice, the rest of the time sweet potato. Again, I typically add 1-2tbs of butter. Just from that, I'm not even or I'm just breaking 1,400cal a a day.

Question 1) do I need to eat more?

Now my wife, well, she's eating breakfast, maybe half the week skipping lunch, and she says wants to lose about 20lbs. She's 23, 5'5", and 140 lbs. I was weighing myself for the first time in in months out of curiosity and she was not happy she was only 11lbs lighter than me. I'm just lean, but she took that as "I'm chubby". She's a hairdresser who is always moving and standing all day long, so she's not completely inactive.

My question, honestly, is secondary to hers, and that's how should she go about losing 10-20lbs. She tells me of the time 4-5yrs ago when she just started college how she was 115 and skinny. She wants to try to lose weight, so I am trying to help her and be supportive. Of course, 115 was from not eating because of stress and moving constantly.

She's got some back problems right now (a rib out of place the chiropractor and working on, so she can't do a lot of some stuff for the next few weeks), but what can we do, diet wise, to help her meet her goal? Pretty much she eats just like I do, but with the only difference being quantity. How much does she, as a woman, need to be eating? I think part of what will help is is working out and burning some of her fat reserves. She cooks, but most nights I do, so I want to be able to do what I can for her.