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    Question Will he think I'm fat?

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    Should I be afraid of my appearance? How do I have more confidence?

    Situation: I had a wonderful relationship with a guy for three years, we then proceeded to break up and have been apart for two years. We have recently had phone conversations and one interaction. We are now looking towards hanging out and seeing what happens.

    I am 10 pounds heavier than when I was in a relationship with him. I am afraid he will not like my body and I cant even fathom him touching me with my extra pudginess. I actually told him it bothered me in one of our conversations & (from the one time he has seen me) he said I look good. I am working towards getting back to my natural weight, though right now I am what I am. We will be getting together tomorrow evening

    All I know to do right now is find a nice outfit that still fits and hope we still connect like we did two years ago, we were very close.

    Suggestions for a self conscious girl ?
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    10 pounds isn't that much - you probably don't look much different. He might not have even noticed if you hadn't brought it up. Don't let a minor weight gain distract you from what really matters - getting your relationship back on track. If 10 pounds is such a big deal to him that it becomes your biggest issue, then you have no business being with him anyway. Good luck.

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    They all look the same in the dark.

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    hahaha! - JoanieL, that made me feel better. My face is actually smiling. Though, when I said "the last time he saw me" I was neither nude nor in the dark

    Kata- In photos I can tell I look different, mostly I just don't feel like i am in "my own" body. Bleh, its just where my mind goes, but I suppose I should not let it distract me, thanks
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    To be honest, if 10lbs puts him off he's shallow and not worth bothering with. If he likes you despite the weight gain it might mean he likes the real you, not just the packaging. Now that would be nice to know.

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    Quote Originally Posted by freedom.please View Post
    Suggestions for a self conscious girl ?
    Lose 10 pounds?
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    Quote Originally Posted by Gilleh View Post
    Lose 10 pounds?
    Exercise
    Starting Date: Dec 18, 2010
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    Current Weight: 235 pounds
    Goal Weight: 195 pounds

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    OP it's just ten lbs, if he's still into you he'll still want to jump bones and happily do it

    because it's just 10, not 100 (;
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    yeah you are

    I mean there's so many ants in my eyes! And there are so many TVs, microwaves, radios... I think, I can't, I'm not 100% sure what we have here in stock.. I don't know because I can't see anything! Our prices, I hope, aren't too low!

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    Ten pounds is not THAT much! Besides from your siggy I can see that you're not really that heavy for your height either . I'm sure you look absolutely fine! Besides which, as others have said, if he is THAT bothered by it he's not worth worrying about! I can understand him being put off if you had put on 50+ pounds, which is a lot more... but you've hardly done that!

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    Your confidence and carriage will matter more than 10 pounds. You've got to love yourself first. Confidence is a huge factor in attraction.
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