I made the mistake of reading a Jezebel article on spanking. I've also made the mistake on reading stuff on home births, water births, and all this other shit.
I want kids. I know I want kids. I'm finally moving beyond the "I raised my own damn siblings, so no kids yet" stage. I also know that there are some hard decisions we'll need to make. I'm not talking cloth or disposable or even vaccines. I'm talking how we raise our kids. Geek was raised in a loving, nonabusive way. Y'all've "heard" how I was raised. The idea of trying to make sure I don't raise an entitled prick or a cowering mess weighs heavily on my mind.
There are so many things I want to do "right", but I'm human, I know I'll fuck up. We've talked about how we'll handle misbehavior and good behavior, in broad terms. I know I don't want to hit my kids (aside from the equivalent of swatting a hand from a hot stove.) I know there's a really good chance that kids we have will be logical and explaining reasons behind things would be all it takes for them to accept a "no." I also know there's a chance I could end up with a horribly illogical creature that I don't understand and that doesn't speak my language. I know all these hard things. Makes midwife center vs hospital seem a downright simple decision, in comparison. I know that base rules are all we'll be able to have until the child(ren) appear, because the kids' needs and personalities trump whatever best intentions we have.
I just know two things, if I were to end up pregnant today: I don't want my children to need Al-Anon, and I refuse to let them be entitlement jerks.