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    For those 60+ and not Christian...

    Do you at times feel empty? Despite having a wonderful marriage for so many years, if at all. Please share

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    Well, I'm 65 and there's not much wonderful about by marriage but no, I don't think I've ever felt empty if by that you mean lonely or unfulfilled. I'm by nature very happy and optimistic and always have a ton of fun and/or interesting projects in the works.

    Not sure what being non-Christian has to do with it. My beliefs would probably be called pagan but all organized religion repels me and always has. I suppose the kind of person who needed to be around people/family/community might feel odd with that outlook but I prefer, make that crave solitude, have no family (thank God and the gods!) and while I like my little remote, rural community I rarely participate in any of the social happenings aside from the occasional funeral to show respect.

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    Well, I'm not old enough or married. But I can tell you I was told once that if I didn't have children my life would be empty. It is not.
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    Quote Originally Posted by sbhikes View Post
    Well, I'm not old enough or married. But I can tell you I was told once that if I didn't have children my life would be empty. It is not.
    God, is that the most annoying thing or what? People often ask if I have grandchildren (wrongly assuming I had children) and when I say no the response is something like "Oh, how sad!" or "You don't know what you're missing!"

    Like hell - I have only to visit any public place and endure the out-of-control shreiking brats from all corners to know what I'm missing. Thanks, but no thanks; I'll stay in the child-free camp.

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    I'm not 60+, I'm 55. But I'm not Christian and I feel quite fulfilled--much more fulfilled than when I still followed a traditional religion. I felt more empty and confused when I still believed in "God".

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    Quote Originally Posted by sakura_girl View Post
    Do you at times feel empty? Despite having a wonderful marriage for so many years, if at all. Please share
    I'm almost 56, so not quite 60 . However, I think everyone feels empty, lost, unfulfilled, at a quandary, at some point in their life. I also think that a "sense of emptiness/unfulfillness/questioning" is a call for self awareness, reflection, and growth. IMO, depending on marriage or any other person to "fill you up" is a recipe for disaster.

    I also think those questioning feelings have nothing to do with whether you are Christian or not.I believe they have more to do with whether or not you are living a life that is meaningful and authentic for you.

    The more important issue, as I see it is, why did you pose the question?

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    Did the OP ask anything about having children? Her question is about not being Christian, and referenced marriage, but didn't mention children.

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    No, it wasn't about children, specifically, although it makes me wonder about marriage. I was just wondering how people who have found living in religion find their life fulfilling. I have always been at odds with my religion, since I am a scientist by nature, but I also value creative thought and philosophy.

    I feel that Christians are correlated with sheeple and not creative thinkers, and therefore are generally associated with negative things on this board. However, I feel that a combination of creative thought and religion could really be the best combination to a fulfilling life. I am thinking of when one hits 50 years old and is living with someone they thought was the love of their life, until they hit some sort of hardship, in which case the love slowly dwindled to a life partner (which I assume is the case for the large majority of relationships). How do you spend the next 30 years of life together?

    However, since this really is a Paleo forum, I would understand that most people are not Christian. And some would even argue against only 1 partner in life. I am just curious of people's opinions.

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    Quote Originally Posted by sakura_girl View Post
    since I am a scientist by nature[...]

    [...] in which case the love slowly dwindled to a life partner (which I assume is the case for the large majority of relationships).

    [...] since this really is a Paleo forum, I would understand that most people are not Christian.
    Why do you assume this? Or understand that? Seems contrary to your nature.

    (Okay, I'm not over 60, and I don't know if I'm a Christian or not, but I had to see what this thread was about. Also, intrigued by OP asking people to share without doing so themselves first. Isn't that the typical arrangement?)

    Along with Marcadav, I think everyone feels empty at times. And regardless of age, religion, marital status, it is up to the individual to fill or deal with their own particular emptiness.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Sabine View Post
    Why do you assume this? Or understand that? Seems contrary to your nature.

    (Okay, I'm not over 60, and I don't know if I'm a Christian or not, but I had to see what this thread was about. Also, intrigued by OP asking people to share without doing so themselves first. Isn't that the typical arrangement?)

    Along with Marcadav, I think everyone feels empty at times. And regardless of age, religion, marital status, it is up to the individual to fill or deal with their own particular emptiness.
    Sorry, I didn't realize there were traditions to do that.

    I am in my twenties, and I just actually broke up with my first boyfriend to whom I have been with for over half a year (hence the depressing posts...). He is atheist, and I am Christian, at least by upbringing. We make a pretty great couple; we can do many things together due to similar interests and lifestyle (he is not Paleo, but he thinks it has some merits; otherwise minimalism and practicality match to a T). However, he is very staunchly atheist until I can prove to him that Christianity is the way to go....which is ridiculous because I can't "prove" anything with belief-driven philosophy. I thought about marrying him, but I thought it would cause too much of a rift over time to make decisions based on my faith, and to also be disconnected by the part that I am working toward a life closer to God, when he isn't. Our life goals are too different, and I can see how my life may become unhappy over time because of this. And empty if we grew old with each other.

    Anyway, my decision was made, and I feel very sorry for him to have rejected him so quickly, and just sad for myself in general. I'll get over it, but what other great time to contemplate life's greatest rewards/pains than this?

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