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    The whole bulky woman thing

    As I've surfed around the web it seems to me that all my life I've misunderstood the whole "I'm a woman and I don't want to get bulky" thing. It seems that it means to everybody but me that women don't want to look like Arnold in a bikini. I always thought it meant I didn't want to look like an overweight, butchy female softball player.

    I'm already so preciously close to looking like that already. I don't want to just add muscle under my fat and get bigger and fatter looking. I just want to be strong, slim (as is reasonable for me) and maybe if I'm lucky, some visible muscles here and there.

    Am I the only one who has misunderstood this idea of what big and bulky means?
    Female, 5'3", 50, Max squat: 202.5lbs. Max deadlift: 225 x 3.

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    I think women are scared to look like either this: (Bulky) http://physicalliving.com/img/female...competitor.jpg
    or this (butch) http://profile.ak.fbcdn.net/hprofile...550_1394_n.jpg

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    I actually think the first one is kind of awesome, although maintaining figure competitor leanness is not something she probably does year round. When it's not competition time, she likely looks like a slim, fit, strong woman, but not "bulky" at all since her muscles would be less obvious with a little more body fat.
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    SB - you live in Cali which is full of skinny-fat clones. In terms of a realistic perspective, you are strong and slim already. Enjoy being yourself and building a bit more muscle if that's what you want. It's your choice.
    F 5 ft 3. HW: 196 lbs. Primal SW (May 2011): 182 lbs (42% BF)... W June '12: 160 lbs (29% BF) (UK size 12, US size 8). GW: ~24% BF - have ditched the scales til I fit into a pair of UK size 10 bootcut jeans. Currently aligning towards 'The Perfect Health Diet' having swapped some fat for potatoes.

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    I don't think you mean bulky, I think you mean stocky, if I had to be blunt. If you were born with that type of figure, what are you going to do? There are some forum members around here who just won't accept their bodies and think that they could be the slim type with tiny bulges of muscle here and there in the right places to look sexy. Well you know what? Not everyone can do that.

    If you're going to keep posting about how you're the stockier type complaining to want the uber curvy type, then maybe you shouldn't be at MDA at all. There are a bunch of other forums out there who will help you accomplish just that, and then you can start living with poor health again. Good luck to you.

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    Quote Originally Posted by sakura_girl View Post
    I don't think you mean bulky, I think you mean stocky, if I had to be blunt. If you were born with that type of figure, what are you going to do? There are some forum members around here who just won't accept their bodies and think that they could be the slim type with tiny bulges of muscle here and there in the right places to look sexy. Well you know what? Not everyone can do that.
    I used to think I could never have the strength or body that I have now, but paleo and crossfit/powerlifting changed that. I am *almost* able to see the upper part of my abs ... once when I was drunk I told my friend to punch me in the stomach repeatedly (lol) and she even acknowledged that the muscles were definitely there. I'm about 23% BF ... I'd like to get down to 20 or so but that will probably have to wait until after my climbing expedition this winter. In 2010, I couldn't do ONE full pullup (deadhang all the way, none of that halfway down BS I see dudes in the gym doing all the time). Now I can bust out 4 (or 5, on a good day). Point being, anyone can have any body, it just comes down to what you're willing to sacrifice to get it.
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    Quote Originally Posted by AmyMac703 View Post
    Point being, anyone can have any body, it just comes down to what you're willing to sacrifice to get it.
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    Goal Reached: 30-09-12 @ 143lb. Now bouncing between 145lb - 149lb. I'd like less bounce and more consistency :-)

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    first pic is awesome and I'd love to look like that... Rosie O'Donnell is also awesome (but doesn't have an awesome body)

    Third Pic is what I'm scared of looking like
    Also scared of looking like https://encrypted-tbn0.gstatic.com/i...NwFVZQxUI1y9ig


    I think sbhikes might be talking more about something like https://encrypted-tbn1.gstatic.com/i...-L5lPjmW_Wf6ow
    or https://encrypted-tbn2.gstatic.com/i...3uBQY1PWWzbU6P
    Last edited by PrimalMama; 10-26-2012 at 01:11 PM.

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    Quote Originally Posted by PrimalMama View Post
    That looks like Lee Priest in a bikini. I am scarred for life now. Thanks.
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