As I've surfed around the web it seems to me that all my life I've misunderstood the whole "I'm a woman and I don't want to get bulky" thing. It seems that it means to everybody but me that women don't want to look like Arnold in a bikini. I always thought it meant I didn't want to look like an overweight, butchy female softball player.

I'm already so preciously close to looking like that already. I don't want to just add muscle under my fat and get bigger and fatter looking. I just want to be strong, slim (as is reasonable for me) and maybe if I'm lucky, some visible muscles here and there.

Am I the only one who has misunderstood this idea of what big and bulky means?