Frustrations with gifted sugar... page

[PrimalMama]

My mom just can't let a holiday go by without sending me some sort of sentimental crap sugar. *sigh*
Some of it I didn't even like as a kid - the chalky valentine's hearts spring to mind - and she pays money to ship these things to me even though she KNOWS I don't eat sugar except for "special" occasions (you know, super-rich home-made molten lava cake type occasions.)...

I thought she understood, when she didn't send me cadbury creme eggs this year (because, amongst other things, they just do NOT taste the same with HFCS and PGPR...)
but today I opened up a package with an old book and some family recipes (which I was expecting), and I find a pound (whoops, just checked, inflation hit, it's only 11.18oz) of fun-size snickers. *sigh*

I don't even want a single fun-size snickers, and the thought process that's followed is a crazy downward spiral.
I hate to waste food, but I shouldn't encourage ANYone to eat this $#!t, but the world can't sustain EVERYONE eating primal and it's their choice, so if they want it, who am I to interfere? And why did my mom think this was a good idea?.... and then my head explodes, and I look at the bag o' junk and sulk.

A few years ago, I posted on a low carb board about a vendor dropping in unannounced with a dozen donuts (for our office of 2, neither of whom are sugar eaters) and how annoyed I was with the waste of food and the fact the guy kept popping in (I have never, EVER received an office visit from someone in his line of work before, so it felt odd), and brought sugary treats on multiple occasions, expecting smiles (when I was in the middle of rushing a deadline and could barely manage time to use the bathroom and eat)...
...and SEVERAL people said I had "issues" and should just be happy that the guy was trying to be nice.

Primal people seem to be much more... uh... rational? less grumpy? I'm not exactly sure what to call it... but the point is... what do YOU do when presented with a well-meaning gift of sugar? Is there a way to tell the person "thanks for thinking of me, but please don't bring sugar" when it's likely to be a repetitive thing?

(note: I don't *really* expect solutions to the mom issue from an internet forum, but suggestions and personal anecdotes are always nice)

[peril]

Make a sculpture of it that the giver may see next time they visit

[magicmerl]

My dad makes and gives us apricot jam, and I thank him for it every time he does, since it's a way of him showing love to us. And I like that he loves us. We make a big deal of it as a family whenever we use 'Grandpa's world famous apricot jam'.

Do you have kids? I'm sure that you can dole those snickers bars out to them over the course of a year. Or maybe melt/bake them into some sort of treaty chocolate pudding, mixed in with cream?

[PrimalMama]

Make a sculpture of it that the giver may see next time they visit

*snort* if I wouldn't get flack for it, I TOTALLY would!

My dad makes and gives us apricot jam, and I thank him for it every time he does, since it's a way of him showing love to us. And I like that he loves us. We make a big deal of it as a family whenever we use 'Grandpa's world famous apricot jam'.

Do you have kids? I'm sure that you can dole those snickers bars out to them over the course of a year. Or maybe melt/bake them into some sort of treaty chocolate pudding, mixed in with cream?

Something homemade with love & sugar is different (at least in my mind) than a bag of snickers...
I'll probably end up giving the snickers to the girl scout troop I lead... 1 per girl and they'll be gone before you can say "Thin Mint."
Honestly, snickers melted or baked into a pudding mixed in with cream sounds absolutely disgusting to me (sorry), and they're just not something I want around the house (and not because I'm tempted by them).

[jojohaligo]

"That is sooo sweet of you! But, I am sooo sorry, I am on a doctor's orders not to eat any sugar."


Of course, next time they'll bring some fake-sweetened-overly-processed-chemical-poop for you...

[bloodorchid]

if it's from mom, say thank you. she won't be around forever

[magnolia1973]

Give it to a food bank and say thank you.

[Chaohinon]

If you're getting them in the mail and she's not around to see you throw them out....then throw them out.

[PrimalMama]

"That is sooo sweet of you! But, I am sooo sorry, I am on a doctor's orders not to eat any sugar."


Of course, next time they'll bring some fake-sweetened-overly-processed-chemical-poop for you...

lol... too true... "look, I made this chemical-filled junk-bomb especially for YOU!" (aw crap, now I feel like 10x as guilty if I don't eat it... AWKward!)

and of course the "doctor's orders" thing doesn't work with family... they know I don't go to the doctor (I'm more into eastern medicine and knowing when to use western medicine)

[PrimalMama]

Give it to a food bank and say thank you.

if it's from mom, say thank you. she won't be around forever

If you're getting them in the mail and she's not around to see you throw them out....then throw them out.

yes, "thank you" is the appropriate response...
...except she knows better (on several levels... one of them I don't eat sugar, another being paying money to ship things that I can buy on the corner... I could go on...) - fortunately I have a really good relationship with my mom, except for the gift thing
I just can't seem to THROW AWAY "perfectly good"... "food"... All the food banks I've worked with don't really want candy... lol? But I know some nuns and girl scouts that love it