Yes, I often wish I hadn't gotten him diagnosed. The legacy of years of behavioral therapy is still getting in the way. He still remains about 18 months behind his age appropriate peers, but I tell people that when he is 40 and he acts like he is 38 nobody will notice the difference. It gets us needed services/accomodations in school (more ADD/Aspergers as he matures), but I am considering pulling him from public education into a more hands-on learning environment. 6th grade this year.
Your parents did a great job. Sounds like you are doing a great job now, too.
I wish my son was obsessed with nutrition! He's obsessed with sugar.

Any insights on how to switch focus? He is actually too thin with little muscle mass. We have to find a physical activity that he enjoys or the long term health effects will be huge. If we lived in a warm climate we could bicycle all year. I'm in Wisconsin (brrrrr)
I wish you continued progress with both you and your mom!