You won't believe me, but one day in the future, a month or even a year from now, you'll find yourself laughing without thinking about it first. Then you will know you are healing.
Time, it's the only cure. And yes, bacon.
Do what you love and do it often. If you don't like something, change it. if you don't like your job, quit. If you don't have enough time, stop watching tv. If you are looking for the love of your life, stop, they will be waiting for you when you start doing the things you love. Stop over analyzing, life is simple. When you eat, appreciate every last bite. Some opportunities only come once, seize them.
I don't know if you consider yourself religious or spiritual in any way...but...
...when I had a horribly broken heart many years ago...I prayed and prayed and prayed and prayed...I read the passage in the Gospel of Luke about not worrying and God will take care of you no matter what. I felt desperately alone and it was the only thing that saved me from a horrible situation. I also read "The Red Book" by Sara Beak and was exactly what I needed at the time. Funny how that works. It is geared towards women, but anyone can read it and benefit, I think.
Just so you know, I'm a recovering Catholic. I do not attend any church of any kind. But I'm kind of a religious/spiritual studies nerd and I've been on a deeply winding path for most of my life.
My heart and thoughts are with you.
Lastly, as others have said:
BLOCK HER. Do NOT text her back. REMOVE her from FB. Contact is the absolute worst for BOTH of you. It's like pouring salt and lemon juice on a fresh wound.
Actually, that's exactly what it is.
Throw yourself into something you enjoy. Or pursue a hobby you've put off for some time. Dive in.
I remember a post you made about her recently regarding text misinterpretations, that was you, yes? So sorry to hear that things have not worked out.
For me, the best thing when I am very sad, or feeling sick, or anything is to throw myself completely and entirely into my two favorite things: my job, and World of Wacraft (don't judge me =P). Just focus really hard on your favorite things and that will help you get through this. Try not to be doing nothing, as idleness leads to over thinking.
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OP: Find the time to be alone, and deal with it all. Most of the time when I hear things like this, people are usually emotionally dependent on their partner. If this is the case, I find it best to suggest people spend more time alone (you spend time with those you love, so spend time with yourself!). This will at least lessen the blow to at least some form of insult, rather than a life destroying situation.
Sorry for the continued drama...
Got a text today:
"I would very much like to talk to you"
this is after six days of nothing. The last text she sent which I didn't respond to was
"Thanks, TFC that means a lot. I hope you are doing well too. This is all very difficult and I don't want to make anything more difficult. It's hard not talking to you."
WHAT THE FUCK.
I Haven't reciprocated contact I haven't even initiated it. Here she is initiating it... what am I to think> WHat is natural to think? Is she setting me up to crush my heart again? It isn't fair. I haven't said anything since she broke it off why would she initiate contact to break it again?????
I don't deserve this
ad astra per aspera