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  1. #111
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    not sure if you answered this already, but how long were you with this girl?

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    3 months - intensely, every day etc.

    I know it sounds like nothing; but it was incredibly intense. Or maybe I'm just blind and it wasn't. I don't know what to think or believe anymore.
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    She's craving drama. Block it all out. Everything. If you don't you'll be back here in a year telling us how bad it all is.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Mr. Anthony View Post
    She's craving drama. Block it all out. Everything. If you don't you'll be back here in a year telling us how bad it all is.
    This.

    TFC, you are ignoring all of the good advice you have gotten in this thread.

    Stop communicating with her. Immediately.

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    I am ignoring the good advice. You are right.
    But that's because I still love her. I've tried to get over that.
    But a (crazy) part of me hopes and wishes she realized she made a mistake.
    I would fight for her... that isn't bad is it???
    I know it's stupid. I just accept I am imperfect and am continually learning and growing as I understand myself.
    A part of me is always willing to accept that about others.

    I realize it's self desctructive but I can't shut the door that looks like from here it's opening.
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    oh man. that is really nothing. honestly. i'm not trying to tell you how you feel, but my take is that you don't love her. and she doesn't love you. 3 months is lust. it's really liking. its puppy love. but it isn't real love. you barely know each other. you haven't been through anything together. haven't had life experiences (good or bad) together. you may grow to love each other. or after dating for a year or so, you may grow to hate each other. i think you need to make a decision and make it soon. you shouldn't live like this anymore. either cut her off completely, or date her again. shit or get off the pot

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    Well, she might genuinely regret her actions, but it's about herself hurting, not about hurting you.
    I don't think there is a particularly painfree way to break up. I'd be surprised if two people split and made a clean, non-dramatic break.

    Maybe I have you confused with someone else, but was this not the woman who can't find work and nags you? Really, think about what kind of person you want to hitch your wagon to. Beauty fades, and sexual chemistry can wane, along with it a lot of the feeling of caring. What you end up left with is someone who needs to be a friend, a reliable person and someone who's core values you like. Part of what kept me going was that at heart, my husband is a good person, hard worker, good provider.

    You don't want to string this along. Yeah, maybe you get back together and in a year the horniness fades and you are left with a useless slacker of a girlfriend that you don't really like, and it's even HARDER to get out of.

    You will fall in love again. You will meet someone that you want to spend every second of the day with. With a little luck, it will be a woman that you can rely on, that supports you and helps you become an even better person.

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    Quote Originally Posted by magnolia1973 View Post
    Well, she might genuinely regret her actions, but it's about herself hurting, not about hurting you.
    I don't think there is a particularly painfree way to break up. I'd be surprised if two people split and made a clean, non-dramatic break.

    Maybe I have you confused with someone else, but was this not the woman who can't find work and nags you? Really, think about what kind of person you want to hitch your wagon to. Beauty fades, and sexual chemistry can wane, along with it a lot of the feeling of caring. What you end up left with is someone who needs to be a friend, a reliable person and someone who's core values you like. Part of what kept me going was that at heart, my husband is a good person, hard worker, good provider.

    You don't want to string this along. Yeah, maybe you get back together and in a year the horniness fades and you are left with a useless slacker of a girlfriend that you don't really like, and it's even HARDER to get out of.

    You will fall in love again. You will meet someone that you want to spend every second of the day with. With a little luck, it will be a woman that you can rely on, that supports you and helps you become an even better person.

    No that was not me/her; she has her masters and a post grad certification. She's awesome at crossfit, has a dog, eats Paleo and is very attractive, has a good job etc, no kids, is healthy, 29. I'm thirty two years old; I have had my heart broken at least 4 times; I know the difference between love and lust, I've had three relationships of 3+ years; I've fucked all of the women I really want or need to. At this point I know the difference between potential, a good catch etc. I definitely appreciate and value your advice and perspective -- everyone I promise. I'm just trying to give context.

    at what point do you flex and "try" and at what point to you close yourself and move on?
    At what age?
    What happens if you regret not trying later in life?
    What's the worst that happens if you do try?
    She has run away from me but she has some issues in the past with being mistreated in relationships as well. She hasn't been intentionally malicious.

    This is not puppy love; it isn't lust. I am whole-hearted in the vein of



    It isn't always easy but is different and sometimes very hard.
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    I'm sorry I am just typing out loud the thoughts that are in my head. I am trying to process everything before I do anything. I do not like drama I'm sorry if this thread is annoying.
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    OK, that must have been someone else having issues.

    It does make it harder if she otherwise has her shit together.

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