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    So my libido is pretty pathetic

    Title says it all... I'm a 20 year old guy and I should be too horny to function. It's not that I'm not interested in ladies, but I am certainly less motivated to chase after them than most of my friends. Even when I do end up spending quality time with a girl, I tend to be less interested than I'd expect when we're actually getting down to business.

    I know libido is pretty much all hormones and that my anxiety and depression are probably throwing mine for a loop. I'm in therapy for those and making steady improvement. Still, this is an issue I'd like to address directly and promptly. Any ideas for what else could be happening here or what else I can do? Any suggested reading? Any personal experience?

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    Testosterone is the male hormone. If your testosterone levels are normal, other things can be influencing your libido, as you mention, depression.
    People are taught they have to be raging sex maniacs with everyone, but really, this isn't true. Some of us are pretty selective about who really gets our attention, and it's not all physical. We want to feel a mental connection. For some women,
    the guy who is more cerebral is a better mate selection. Remember, it's quality, not quantity.

    The SSRIs that docs push are notorious for causing sexual "side effects" like loss of feeling.

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    Are you taking anti-depressants as well as going to therapy? Many of those can cause lack of libido. I was on Zoloft for ten years. I didn't realize how much it was effecting my sex drive until I went off of them a month ago. Getting off the meds and going primal definitely brought me back to life!

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    I think libido is a function of general wellness. For example, if you have diarrhea and headache, your libido might not be so hot. I would say eat well, sleep well, and exercise well. The X-factor could be porn if you watch it at all. STOP porn. It rewires your brain.
    TEDxGlasgow - Gary Wilson - The Great Porn Experiment - YouTube
    Rebooting | Your Brain On Porn
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    To the original poster, I want to give you some good news: from my personal experience, it might be a good thing that you're struggling with this (emotionally and psychologically) now rather than in your later years. I say this because I went through extended periods in my early twenties where I had virtually no desire (granted, I also rarely had opportunities with women, and that didn't help, probably). When this dearth of desire occurred, it then lead to a vicious cycle: I felt little or nothing, so I got stressed out. Then, I became so stressed out and fixated on my near impotence, that it caused me still more stress. So, my libido was then worse than before, so I'd get MORE stressed....and on and on the cycle would go.

    After a year or two of periodically freaking out, I eventually reached this common sense conclusion: It's perfectly fine to go a few weeks or even months where your libido is low....especially if your life is stressful outside of it. I was always worrying about making rent, buying food, and other life essentials, so of course I was going to have low libidos at such times! I came to embrace and accept the ebbs and flows of libido (and, for that matter, of all emotional states: sometimes I'm jazzed up for work, other times I'll go weeks where I have to force myself to miserably open up my work files).

    By the time I was 25 or so, I don't think I ever had sexual problems. (One other note is to understand that sex, as coarse as this sounds, is not always the graceful, idyllic shit in staged movie scenes: usually, it's just a reflexive, organic bodily function. So don't buy into the shit that you've gotta be some sex god or whatever. Simply let nature take over, if you're not especially passionate.)

    Conversely, I know that some dudes who were sex gods in their twenties or whatever, and now in their 30's these dudes are already using the repulsive Viagara. (Hell, I know one dude who started using the fake boner drugs at age 26!)

    So, if you're like me at all, then you'll learn to accept the rhythms of your emotions (in this case, libido) and even to embrace these rhythms, rather than to get a wave of cortisol to stress you out every time you don't get horny on cue.

    And, of course, the paleo diet and its saturated fats are phenomenally helpful for boosting your hormones and androgens (like testosterone and HGH), and stabilizing your energy levels overall. So if you live Primal, and learn to go with the flow, you'll be fine.

    (And please, don't ever use Viagara. I'm embarrassed for my half of the species that any dude ever touches that shit.)

    Quote Originally Posted by wiltondeportes View Post
    The X-factor could be porn if you watch it at all. STOP porn. It rewires your brain.
    TEDxGlasgow - Gary Wilson - The Great Porn Experiment - YouTube
    Rebooting | Your Brain On Porn
    YES! Thank you for sharing this, wiltondeportes.

    I personally include "avoid pornography" in my exercise logs. That shit fucked me up, causing me to waste thousands of hours of my life staring at disgusting sex, and perverting my standards for women and what sex should be like. So, for the past few years, my rule has been to avoid porn. To the extent that I need to shoot a wad but there's no girl present (which is most of the time), I use my own imagination, and then I just get the shit over with quickly, rather than staring at some other dude's contrived sexual conquests via porn.

    Along with those articles, here is a riveting article (written by a woman) detailing how porn fucks you up:
    Part 1: http://www.theoccidentalobserver.net...-brain-part-1/
    Part 2: http://www.theoccidentalobserver.net...-brain-part-2/
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    Quote Originally Posted by NowhereMan View Post
    Title says it all... I'm a 20 year old guy and I should be too horny to function. It's not that I'm not interested in ladies, but I am certainly less motivated to chase after them than most of my friends. Even when I do end up spending quality time with a girl, I tend to be less interested than I'd expect when we're actually getting down to business.

    I know libido is pretty much all hormones and that my anxiety and depression are probably throwing mine for a loop. I'm in therapy for those and making steady improvement. Still, this is an issue I'd like to address directly and promptly. Any ideas for what else could be happening here or what else I can do? Any suggested reading? Any personal experience?
    My friend,

    You are severely deficient in iodine. You can prove this for yourself with the Iodine Loading Test. Iodine is required by every cell in our body, and supplies the thyroid with its energy to stimulate hormones throughout the body. Large amounts of iodine are required for the sex organs in both men & women. When people are deficient in iodine, libido is one of the 1st things to go.

    Iodine deficiency is also the cause of Prostate problems in men, fibrocystic Breast Disease, PCOS, Endometrium problems, & cysts in women. Both sexes suffer from cold hands, cold feet (hypothyroid) and other hypothyroid symptoms. All conditions are reversed with iodine with required supplements. See the Testimonials from people right here at Marks Daily Apple, where you will find libido improvements and reversal of serious female health problems from simply taking iodine with required supplements.

    Complete details & research here:
    http://tinyurl.com/iodine-references

    The Curezone also has a wealth of examples - from people with iodine deficiency problems. Do a search for "Libido."
    Men at the Curezone discovered this method to speed iodine into their prostate, and I can confirm it does wonders.

    If anyone has questions, PM me here or leave a message at the Curezone.
    Grizz
    Last edited by Grizz; 10-01-2012 at 03:38 AM.

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    Quote Originally Posted by namelesswonder View Post
    Don't say shit that you have no idea about. If you have not PERSONALLY run this test on this guy, you don't know this. Based on ONE symptom, you cannot say someone is deficient in anything.
    Except Grizz says iodine deficiency is the cause of EVERY major health problem of the modern era.

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    Or it's just your personality. I could name a number of guys I knew back in college and even now who are just uninterested. They work, play video games, hang out with other guys. Theu see pursuing a girl as being just more time and effort than is worth their while. And I have a number of married guy friends who wish they had that carefree single life again. It takes all sorts to make the world...don't let society tell you that you have to be a horny male to be satisfied with life. By all means, get your hormonal level checked out if you are concerned but if everything is fine then just go with the flow.
    F 28/5'4/100 lbs

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    It could also be you're just dealing with some bitches. I don't know anything that could up your libido though
    well then

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    sometimes people have libido issues when they are eating low carb

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