@relaygirl thanks for your reply awhile back! just getting back to forums after laying off for awhile and general life busy-ness. I totally get teh whole kids thing...but i'm 39, single. I would totally do it with someone but after lots o soulsearching realized it's not something I want to do solo. I'm totally open to being a step-mom or maybe even adoptiong or having my own in the future, but my family is all over the world and i would really need backup you know? anyway, so is life!
re carbs etc... i think you're worrying a little too much. for me, i kinda let loose when i know i'll be doing/did extensive runs or other cardio. otherwise i try to keep it dialed in. but by that i mean around 100-150g/day. i found when i tried to go VLC my body was NOT happy with me. I could do it for a short while and then it was freak out time! So i have berries in my morning green smoothie, usually a grapefruit and might shred some yam into a meal at night (and of course a little dark chocolate!).
but i feel you re. the abs! i'm kinda letting go of the 6-pack goal though. mainly because i know the only time i lost my belly fat (and it's not that much really), i barely ate for a month! (post break up). not exactly something i want to emulate. plus, i've got a nice bod and don't want to take it for granted! i'm sure in 10-20 years it won't look this good (although i hope it doesn't look that bad considering my focus on healthy lifestyle!) so i want to enjoy it and everything it does for me.
as for races...i've got a half coming up on may 5th, then i'm doing the Ride to Conquer Cancer (Vancouver- Seattle) in June, another race option July 20 (probably 10k but maybe half) then a sprint tri in august 5! I'm psyched! I find i'm more excited for races now that i have removed full marathon pressure from my shoulders!
definitely don't go low carb right before races. i would add more that week for sure. BTW do you still not use gels/candy mid-race? I'm using Vega gels which, although they make me gag a bit, do a pretty good job.