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    Am I a jerk or is the GF crazy?

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    I hate text messaging. All it does is cause misunderstanding and *inhibit* communication. Also I suck at it. Unfortunately everyone my age loves it and so I am forced to cooperate.

    Here's an exchange from lunch today between me and the GF that I could use a separate perspective on; frankly I am questioning my
    own perceptions as I could be a complete sociopath with a skewed sense of reality.

    TFC's Squeeze:"Hey TFC know how I talked about having poor post workout recovery? Well for lunch I am eating sardines (fish oil) with spinach and
    avocado "

    TFC: "Amazing! Do you think cortisol could be a factor? I'm sending you a care package [of zinc, magnesium, anti cortisol supplements] from Amazon.com"

    (she's been under a lot of pressure/stress lately with work, friends and a 100 mile relay race she is running this weekend)

    TFC's Squeeze:""Thanks for suggesting I have high cortisol :-/"

    TFC: "It was a question goof /bonk!" :P

    TFC's Squeeze:""You're right I'm too stressed and suffer a multitude of physical sumptoms as a consequence. All of which are unattractive and debilitating in some way.
    Yes I likely have high cortisol. Thank you for pointing it out. Assumptions can be made from that question that hurt my feelings."

    TFC: Maintains radio silence so as not to break something again;. scratches mane and wonders what the cure for estrogen is.

    Since when is suggesting someone is stressed an insult?
    How do I respond? Clearly I have no idea what I am doing.
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    She is crazy.

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    I had to read this twice to understand your GF. Originally, I was like, yes GF is being a tad crazy but then I read her first sentence again. She was looking for your praise by eating what you suggest and instead you found another problem. ;-) I know that you only want to help her feel better but she just may need a little extra praise and love instead.

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    Hard to infer tone and all that stuff, also girls are just crazy man.

    Is she good in bed? ultimately that's all that matters.

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    What's crazy is text messaging.
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    Quote Originally Posted by jkr View Post
    She was looking for your praise by eating what you suggest and instead you found another problem. ;-)
    He gave her praise ("Amazing!") and suggested further help asking if cortisol might be an issue (this is offering support) and he then offered to help with this (more support). Her response "OMFG I am a horrible stress monster who sucks at life! Now you have hurt my feelings!"

    Yeah, run.
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    Girls are awful. I'm glad I like dudes because if I had to deal with a female on a regular basis I'd go abso-fucking-lutely insane.

    Just back away and let her simmer down. She overreacted.
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    Quote Originally Posted by jkr View Post
    I had to read this twice to understand your GF. Originally, I was like, yes GF is being a tad crazy but then I read her first sentence again. She was looking for your praise by eating what you suggest and instead you found another problem. ;-) I know that you only want to help her feel better but she just may need a little extra praise and love instead.
    Yes you are completely right. I have a built in drive to help, increase, aid, fix and improve. Girls never, or very rarely, want any of that when they have a problem that they voice. They just want to dish about it and have you listen. Men are from Mars women from Venus etc.
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    Context matters. Do you frequently comment on her health? She may feel like you are overly critical of her choices and might have been wanting praise for her healthy choice rather than inferences about her cortisol.
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