lady in red - welcome, nice to have you on board. I am originally from Matamata, so hail from nearly up your way, years ago.
I hate calling this a diet, its more of a lifestyle, which you can pick and choose how paleo/primal you go. I ditched the grains, sugar, processed foods all overnight, and I haven't felt this good in years.
The only naughty ? thing that I indulge in is cream in my coffee, and red wine !. However alot of people here on MDA think that cream, dairy, wine, chocolate is fine - so who am I to argue !!!! I haven't done the chocolate thing yet, but once I get down to my desired weight (18kg to go ), then I will introduce a little cheese, chocolate etc... into my daily intake.
I DO have a bottle or two of wine per week. Love it !!!
I was well into the hot flushes before going primal, and I mean serious hot flushes, but then they disappeared and I haven't had any since. I have no idea if I am going through the 'pause' thou, as I had a hysterectomy at 32 (am now 48).
So you might find that this lifestyle helps. You may also find that you don't proceed past phase two ! you might just stick with it !