sbhikes- i think you have lovely legs. the picture is a little misleading because your knees are darker than the rest of your skin (i'm the same way), and that gives the appearance of more curve. not that's there's anything wrong with more curve, just apparently it's not what your goal is.
Last edited by Saoirse; 08-16-2012 at 06:44 PM.
Sorry about typos. Autocorrect hates me!
130 and had 3 kids! Wow! I should be taking lessons from you on how you have done it.
You look great in your profile pic. Hope you get to where you want to get to.
lol, right on both accounts! thank you. it's honestly a good lesson for me, to learn how to disregard the opinions of others. *I* would like to look a little leaner, and have a little more muscle mass. he's not into muscles quite so much. *shrug* i'm finally getting into a place emotionally where i can define my own goals and hold firm instead of having an internal battle over whether or not i should acquiesce to his preferences.
thanks silky. i'm also short- 5'4" so 130 isn't as little as it is on others. in my head, 115 is still where i think i *should* be, but honestly i think i'd have to sacrifice muscle to get to that point, so i need to give up that arbitrary number.
It's only a mistake to ask if you're not ready to face answers you might dislike
If he wants you thinner, that's ok. You don't have to indulge to every one of his wills
However I think you should use it to you advantage. You want him more muscular? Condition some weight loss for his work outs!
Everything is bad for something - How do you feel today?
I want to be healthy, and live a looooong life (and not one where I deteriorate greatly in old age). Hell, I wanna be independent and looking after myself at 100!
BUT I also wanna LGN in the meantime. I don't think I have EVER had a great body. It wasn't too bad when I was younger, but it wasn't the body that appealed to ME. Yes, I have my own aesthetic preferences, and I really don't care about those of others (in other words, someone might think I look better with a little extra padding, but *I* don't, and it's how *I* feel that counts).
My aesthetic ideal for both men and women is lean and athletic looking. Obviously I like to see a few more muscles on men than women, but I prefer toned/athletic women with nice musculature than ones without. I also don't like flabby bits. At all. (At the moment I have some fine muscle hidden under LOTS of flabby bits).
I actually know my husband would prefer me to stay a bit "curvier" (not that I have a really curvy build anyway lol) because he seems to find bigger legs and tummy more attractive. I don't. I want flat abs and lean legs (no, they'll never be the skinny type with a gap between my thighs as I seem genetically programmed to have meaty, muscly thighs, dammit... but at the very least, I can pare down the FAT!).
Ultimately, I just want to look in the mirror and think I look great! And that's a fine goal. I don't want to do it by eating unhealthily, or starving or anything stupid. Obviously my health is my #1 priority in that regard. But I don't see why I can't have both the health and the great bod . I look forward to a summer where I can wear a bikini and not feel ashamed!