There are some things that just are. Our basic shape as a human is one of them. Without going to unhealthy EXTREMES on is not going to have any real impact on the way they are genetically predisposed to laying down subcutaneous fat.
It actually sounds she has the "healthiest" and "most desirable" fat pattern for a woman... yet reviles it.
I know that it is a personal journey for each of us... but when a person starts to spend so much time obsessing about so few pounds, a few % BF, for so long a period of time... obsessing and failing over and over in cycles...
I think it's time to stop, reassess the real reasons for the "need" and maybe even seek some counseling to deal with the obsession.
I'm still over weight... only a week or so ago I thought I was going to have to have brain surgery to feel any sort of normalcy in my life again (and I still might have to in the not so distant future)... I'm on medications, I have crazy food restrictions because of my medical situation...
But I feel that my relationship with food is MUCH more comfortable and healthy than Leida's... and that makes me feel bad for her.
Leida, Good luck to you. Find a way to love yourself no matter what your thighs look like. Make peace with your body.
I'm going to see a friend participate in a natural body figure competition tonight. She lost significant weight the past couple of years, works out, and got her personal trainer cert, in the process... But she doesn't carry the emotional part of this that you do IMO. And she does NOT strive to live in competition ready state. She prepares for competition by cutting, and lives her life very muscular but puffier/slightly heavier and less defined like they all do. It's a matter of being healthy.