Georgette Redux: A new primal journal page 94

[geostump]

I'm apparently Public Enemy #1 in the Stump house. Clint ended up deleting his facebook account because of a status saying that this was the worst birthday ever and I will never celebrate another one again. Which is true. I want to forget that March 6 ever existed. He never told me why, but I think quite a few people asked him if we were divorcing. At this point, that would be a fucking godsend. I do not want to look him in the face anymore. He has decided that we aren't going to the casino as planned cause he "knows how I will be". I asked him how I would be and he wouldn't tell me. In the middle of the night, I accidentally rolled his direction and he literally pushed me back. I might have cried one tear and fell back to sleep. I'm considering sleeping on the couch tonight. Would be better than sharing the bed with him.

[canio6]

[Pebbles67]

Aw Geo, wishing there was something we could do...

[naiadknight]

along the same thought process as Paula- IS there any way we can help? Offer you some form of acceptable emotional support? Do some research? I know you want to fix it and not hear pretty words.

[geostump]

Aw Geo, wishing there was something we could do...

I wish there was something that could be done as well. I wish this was one of those moments where he would like at me like he usually would and say "it'll be ok. We'll make it through". I don't see that happening right now. It's pretty much every man/woman for themselves. I think we've just started nailing the coffin door shut on this relationship.

The ironic thing is that the person who befriended me last week, texted me wishing a happy birthday and we started talking about the events of yesterday. I was grateful to hear from him.

[jenn26point2]

I hope today is a better day. Sorry for the crap storm. I hope it passes soon and your relationship survives. Money is a horrible wedge that tears us apart. Brad and I have experienced our own marital dischord lately because of money. Hopefully both of our relationships are stronger than the frustration and anger we feel when the financial waters get rocky. In the meantime, I hope a hug will help.

[geostump]

I was talking with a friend of mine and he said tell your husband you love him. I can't right now. The way he's looking at me right now just kills me. I'm at his work then we are going to meet with the attorney.

[jenn26point2]

While you're riding over to the lawyer's office, take his hand and tell him you love him. Look down at your lap or out the window while you say it if you can't say it to him face to face. It might break the ice enough to fix things.

[canio6]

Well, to give a touch of perspective...

You're a man. You work hard to provide for your family like a man should. Shit goes wrong. You have to declare bankruptcy. You feel like a failure as a man, but you struggle through and think it is all going to work out. You are going to put $400 more towards it. You feel good as you are being a good man and taking care of problems and your family. You have a nice evening with your wife planned for her birthday. Suddenly, you find out that things are not taken care of, you are at risk of losing your house, basically you fail as a man. You feel like absolute shit. Luckily, it is your wife's birthday so maybe you can salvage one little part of being a man by taking care of your wife on this one day. Suddenly it is all over facebook how your wife has the worst birthday ever, never wants to celebrate another one, and basically her life if ruined. Suddenly the little hope you had left is gone. Now you are a public failure as a man and a husband. So yeah, he is probably not feeling great right now.

Not that you are either, but there is the dude's perspective. Telling him you love him will help more than you can imagine.

[Pebbles67]

Geo, How is this your fault? It seems as if he is somehow blaming you. Is it just that you vented on FB?

That said, try to patch it up a little before you go to the attorney. Maybe you could apologize for the FB vent and tell him it will all work out even if you don't believe it.