Sol y Sombra: You really need to learn how to. Otherwise, life will just suck way too much
learning how to accept criticism is a good thing, but not always possible. there are some who are just very sensitive, and hearing criticisms again and again will just make the situation more sensitive rather than less. i don't think it's inherent, but something that has to be worked from a different angle. everyone has their hangups, i really don't think it's up to people on the outside to try to change others.
my primal journal:
In order to change something about yourself, you have to want that change. You can't have others determine it for you otherwise the change won't stick or won't happen in the first place IMO.
Went Primal July 25th, 2011.
Current Age: 25
Total Loss: 126 lbs
Starting Stats: Weighed 266 lbs, Body Fat 37.6% (100 lbs), BMI 40.9
Current Stats: Weight 140 lbs, Body Fat 15.2% (21.1 lbs), BMI 21.2
Current Goals: Get a stronger core through Pilates and continue being as Primal as I can be.
My Weight Loss Notes Now on a blog page. It starts with "My Weight Loss: Introduction." Available to the public, share with friends if you'd like!
I'm not saying that my way of accepting criticism easily to improve myself is the best and only way to go. But I"m just saying that it makes life a hell of a lot easier because of the way and frequency in which others dole out criticism.
Mum tells my sister and me a funny tale from our infancy. When I was a few months old and Vicki, my sister, was nearly 4, Mum went to the sales. She was busy pushing the stroller trough the store with Viocki trailing behind and suddenly realised Vivki had stopped and looked very mutinous (no one does mutinous looks like her!). Mum asked her what was wrong. The response, at the top of her voice, naturally, was:
"It's OK for you, you can see nice stuff but all I can see is FAT LADIES' BOTTOMS. In my FACE."
Mum exited that store fairly smartly!
When I was in kindergarden, my mom's best friend, who happened to be over 300 lbs., told me she was "practically perfect in every way," a la Merry Poppins. All I had to say was " No, Merry Poppins wasn't fat." My mom was mortified but her friend just said, "It's true."
I once got in a conversation with a little pre-school boy who kept trying to put his hands on my tummy at work. he said, "Are you pregnant?"
I said, "No"
"Then what's in there"
"A lot of food"
"You must have eaten a lot of food" - eyes wide with shock and awe
"Yes, yes I did"
LOL . . . .
Of course any low self-esteem I might have got from that conversation was all erased on the day I wore a long brick red maxi dress to school. Before story time with the ECE class one of the little girls told me "You look like a princess" - BEST. COMPLIMENT. EVER!
Healthy Bucket List:
- Summit all of Colorado's 14-ers
- Hike the Appalachian Trail
- Do a real pull-up
- Run a 5k
- Be "Hot For Training Camp"
Check out my journey at Outdoor Amy's Blog.
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What am I doing? Depends on the day.
When I was a babysitting teenager, I was babysitting a boy who reached out, touched my face, and said..."Why is your nose so big?" I do have a rather prominent schnoz, and I just said "noses come in all shapes and sizes. Mine is just a big one!" he was satisfied with that answer.
I also sat for a little girl (whose mother was rather flat chested), and she reached out and grabbed my boob saying "What are these?" So funny. She's like a Senior in high school now and would probably just *die* if she knew she did that. ;-)