I have a few things to count down to - my birthday is first , then I have 3 months of study leave , and during that I have the trip to the US . I start back at work after the leave on 1 July, then I have another 3 months that turns into early Nov - early March next year once the stats and some holidays are added in. If I can't get my body dialled in this year, then I'll have to give up all hope of ever getting there.
I don't know if any of the NZers here have ever posted on the trademe community boards, but I wouldn't advise it! Tony and I are in the process of figuring out how to help Mum get into a retirement kind of village - not the full on ones that include health care, but the less intense ones that still provide a sense of safety and community. She can't afford it on her own, but she really needs to move out of her current house as there are lots of external stairs. If she's not well, or has an injury (last year she tore a ligament in her hip) then she becomes pretty much house bound. Anyway, I posted a question on the real estate board about how best to set up a legal framework for her contributing the deposit while we get the mortgage, then she'll live rent and mortgage free for as long as she can. The responses were really, really nasty! It took the best part of a week to get over them . Seriously, calling us thieves, saying she should run a mile from us, saying that my marriage and all my family relationships will fail and then Mum will be homeless and it'll be all my fault . . . even just writing it I feel traumatised. (writing about it is helping - but I just want to forget it!). Makes me realise that I live in a pretty privileged world where at least I can walk away from people like that. Imagine if I had to live in their worlds! Sheesh. Anyway, we visited some open homes with her yesterday, and also finalised most of the legal details. My sister was there, too, and very supportive of what we're doing. Mum was getting really happy when we looked at what she could afford - nothing flash, just well built and pretty, with a bit of garden and lots of sun.
She made me dairy free quiche for lunch yesterday . Today I'm popping pain relief - it had flour and soy milk in it.