Were you saying men are more attracted to a woman who is confident (regardless of her size) than a woman who is insecure about it? I originally read it as something along the lines of 'you catch more flies with confident honey than insecure honey'. Pardon my assumptions if they were incorrect.
I suppose that does indicate something about the kind of person she is rather than how she looks. The problem is often that some never take the opportunity to find out who a woman is because they can't get past her size or confidence level to truly find out. As Nix said, there are those that just aren't attracted to larger, etc.
When a person reaches a level of personal happiness/satisfaction that shows outwardly it attracts people, not just potential mates.
I thought it was just reassuring that no matter a person's current physical condition they can be liked as well as anyone else as long as they aren't a sh*tty person.
I like to think we're on the same page with all of this and we're just saying it in different ways. I know that the only thing that matters is a person's self-worth. We can be loved and adored by countless people but if we don't love ourselves, what's the point?