Fibromyalgia and Fat - Tomi's story page 72

[jenn26point2]

My hub is tall and broad. I can't say muscular b/c he's always been a bit hefty and squishy. But I know under that protective layer of fat, there's a muscular beast. lol

I think the focus recently, and maybe it's just something I'm seeing b/c I've experienced a lot of stress recently and have been venting, is that everyone is going through a sort of purging bad stuff cycle right now. I think it's good for the psyche.

[Pedidoc]

DH is 5-9 and still muscular, but now has that troublesome gut. He still runs 3 miles every other day and lifts weights, so if I could just get him to eat PB, he would probably loose it fast - as the guys do. I'm toying with the idea of not buying the processed junk and sodas that he and DS eat. If there are healthy alternatives available, then it should be okay, right?

[tomi]

I stopped buying the processed junk when I changed my diet. I figure it won't hurt them to live without it - and I don't want to contribute to their bad health by bringing the bad foods into the house. If they want to buy and eat it at work or whatever I have no control over that.......... but, if I'm doing the shopping and cooking - they will get healthy stuff. My son does really good. When he lost all his weight (120 pounds!!!) he did it by cutting out the soda and the sweets. Then he realized that bread was making his acne worse, and dairy was causing his "seasonal allergies". If he has just a bite of bread - he will have zits in a day or 2. So, his diet is pretty clean now. He just needs to eat more veggies.

Weight is holding at 188.

Today I will be doing the "mom" day, instead of my normal Friday mom day. Hubby and I are going deep sea fishing Friday. So I have to go to work and then drive the 15 miles to take mom banking and shopping. Not really looking forward to it. Why is it that as soon as we get our kids raised --- we have to start looking after our parents?

We made the decision to refi the house. AGAIN! But, this time we're going to a 15 year mortgage, with an astounding 2.75% interest rate! I haven't seen mortgage rates that low in my life! Our payments will increase by $250 a month --- but the mortgage will paid off when we are 67 years old. just in time for retirement ............. AND ............ and this is a the really good part!!! It will save us $40,000 in interest as opposed to staying with the current contract. The increase in the payment is a bit scary --- but its the right thing to do for the future. I'll just have to increase my paycheck from the boatshop. I've been meaning to do that anyway. The loan fee's have sure gone up since the last time we refi'd. Like double! But I do love the idea of having the house paid off so soon.

[Judg]

I never did buy a lot of junk food, so when the two kids who were at home told me they wanted to lose weight, they willingly agreed to not buying desserts anymore, mainly cookies and ice cream at our house. So that helped a lot.

After I went primal, both DS and DH said they were willing to go along. They didn't stick very well, but they never pressured me to buy non-primal things, or not much. DH kept wanting to get bad stuff, but I just kept saying no. He was pretty meek about it, maybe because he knew he could get his fix elsewhere.

I don't pressure him much, because he reacts badly to being pressured. I get that, because I'm the same way. I'm hoping to gradually win him over to eating better on his own. Well, I suppose that's already happening, but it is a very gradual process. Still, every improvement he makes is that much better for his health. Patience...

[jenn26point2]

Tomi, after I went home yesterday to take care of our daughter, I noticed Brad didn't pack his potatoes as part of his lunch. I told him there were potatoes in the fridge for him in case he hadn't seen them and he snapped that at the rate he's going, he might as well just stop eating all together. The scale read 327 for him. I asked him when he'd weighed (first thing or after eating) he said after eating breakfast and lunch. I explained to him that eating could have affected the number and he said "I didn't eat 7 lbs worth of food). I agree, but he also drank fluids... anyhow, we decided that we're going to go low starch for him. He can eat whatever he wants, but starchy carbs will be limited to 1x per week or so. To see if maybe that's the problem. Could also be the sugary snacks and all the other garbage he eats, but we'll start with what he's comfortable with giving up.

That being said... drum roll... after 3 days of VLC and no sugar (unless you count the "sugars" in green veggies) I am down to 187.6. Hopefully it sticks!!

[Judg]

Yay! Movement in the right direction.

[tomi]

Jenn - thats awesome! Good job! I remember the "popular" SAD diet to lose weight was "NO WHITE FOOD" -- no white flours, no sugar, no milk -- nothing white. Maybe thought would work for Brad???? Its easy to do --- I mean, if its white you don't eat it. That would of course mean nothing with sugar IN it either. So, just cuz chocolate isn't white doesn't make it acceptable under that rule.

[tomi]

We went deep sea fishing yesterday We were 12 miles out in a 21 foot boat! I was fine once I convinced myself that we weren't going to die. Only got half our limit - but thats okay - everyone went home with a fish. Which means we went home with TWO! We'll be eating one fillet for dinner tonight at the lake. Yummy! Sad day tomorrow --- the boat is coming out of the water. Hubby and his friend are taking it to Olympia for the annual "guy boat trip". Happens every September. He loves this trip and it couldn't come at a better time for him -- right after the summer craziness at the boatshop - and right before the fall craziness at the boatshop! Then we take our vacation in Feb. during the winter lull.

I didn't stay primal though........... for breakfast we stopped at McDonalds! ARE YOU KIDDING ME?? I got a Bacon, Egg and Cheese Biscuit. It was really good! (suprisingly). Here's the nutritional facts: Calories 420 carbs 37 fat 23 protein 15. THEN I ate a crunchy granola bar. The rest of the day was good, but not perfect with chicken and fruit on the boat - then chicken and baked beans for dinner. I guess in reality --- the only bad food I ate was the biscuit, the granola bar, and the baked beans. Thats not going to kill me.

Weight still 187. I have to be extra good because I want my next official weight on Wednesday to be 186 or less!

Today, hubby is moving step daughter #2 out of her apartment. Everything is going into an trailer for a week, until she moves into her new apartment with a roommate. She's going to stay a couple more nights in the apartment, then she's going to Disneyland with her mom, then hubby is moving her into the new apartment. I don't get invited along on these "family" things. Hubby and the ex wife do this with their daughters - and ex wife has requested that I not be involved. Good grief...... she's the one who had the affair and left him -- yet I'm the one she hates! UGH! Stupid drama! We could all be civil and adults about this, but NO - she would rather make an issue over it. So, I'm home - I've mowed the yard, cleaned up all the flowerbeds and blown off the driveway. Hubby expected to be home by noon so we could go to the lake - but they hit traffic going to Corvallis - LOTS of traffic! Seems both universities are having home football games today and 1/2 the state is traveling to watch the games. I'm not complaining mind you -- I don't mind the time alone to work in the yard and stuff. Now......... put away laundry and take a shower! I'm gross from yardwork!

I just ate 1/4 of a watermelon for lunch.............. I was thirsty and hungry -- so it worked!

[Judg]

I think you're better off in every way not being there anyway. It's not as if you are close to your stepdaughters. You would only be uncomfortable the whole time anyway, so be grateful they aren't pressuring you to be there.

[tomi]

I totally agree. Why bother putting myself through on uncomfortable day trying to "make nice" with the ex, and the step daughters who do their best to meerly "tolerate" me. I had a much better day being home and sprucing up my yard! It looks pretty darn nice!

I ended up soaking in the tub for a bit - sure felt good. After a day "at sea" yesterday my knee's are a bit on the swollen and achy side. Its really hard to keep your balance when the surface under you is in constant motion! And the seating wasn't the most comfortable --- so everything from the waste down pretty much just hurts. I need to take care of my body and give it only good healthy food for the next week to combat the abuse it got on the boat!

We were supposed to be going to the boat for the night, but its 4 pm and hubby still hasn't called to say he's on his way home. How can it take so long to pack up one room of furniture? Maybe they went out for lunch, and are just enjoying a day together. Since they've moved out they don't get to spend a lot of time together. The girls very rarely ever come to our house. Step daughter #1 left with a chip on her shoulder and I believe it is still very firmly in place. Step daughter #2 just isn't that big on "family time". She's the intellegent loner. At least my relationship with #2 is improving. She seems to genuinely enjoy talking to me now - where she used to look at my like "why are you talking to me?" Anyway. Now I don't know what is happening. Good thing I have learned to just roll with the punches. With my husband - you can almost always count on plans changing. Its all good............ The only think I know for sure is that we are supposed to be pulling the boat out tomorrow, cuz guy trip is happening on Thursday. BIL just called though and he is under the impression that hubby is towing HIS boat tomorrow ............... so again, I have NO idea what is happening. I am reasonably sure we won't be spending tonight on the boat though. Thats okay too. I like being home.