If he's anything like my hubby, he really doesn't feel that way about you but knows what buttons to push. You wouldn't believe some of the crap my hubs has said to and about me when something else entirely was bothering him. I do understand the attacked and wounded. Keep in mind, though, that there may be something else going on in his life that he hasn't shared with you yet.
You and I should run away for a weekend.........regroup. I'll pick you up on my way south??
Of all the paths you take in life, make sure a few of them are dirt.