I am a speech language pathologist and work closely with a lot of children from pre-k on up who are on the spectrum. My hats off to you Mom's. If there is anything I can ever do to help, just answer questions or listen I am here. Many people with Asperger's live successful and functional lives and it sounds like each of you are providing a loving foundation for them to develop that life.
You know all those things you wanted to do: You should go do them.
SW 215 lbs
CW 180 lbs (whole foods/primal eating)
LW 172 lbs
GW 125ish lbs