haha Thanks, Paula.
I think I figured out what bothers me most about the whole thing. It's not that I'm not getting the same thing in return b/c honestly, if it was offered, I'd probably turn it down b/c it's not needed. What I think bothers me the most is that while I was forced to go out and become independent, they continue to cater to her and support her every desire. I was forced to move out and become an adult, whereas she's been allowed to remain dependent on them. Every time she has a problem, instead of making her sink or swim, they throw her arm floaties. They never let her figure things out on her own.
Instead of making her live in an apartment until she can afford to buy her own house, they buy one for her. I know what's going to happen. She's going to get into this house. She's going to meet someone and he's going to have a bigger/better house and she'll ditch this one like a bad habit and my parents (actually grandparents) will be stuck with this one. It's not enough for her needs, and once something better comes along, she'll split. The second my grandpa (he's actually the one buying the house) makes her mad or tries to butt into what she's doing with the place, she'll ditch it and stick him with it out of revenge. And since it's his house, he has every right to do that.
This is how illogical this whole thing is.. she doesn't even have possession of the house yet. The closing hasn't yet taken place b/c the mortgager can't find the abstract (the house was repossessed and the bank that owns it can't find the abstract). But, she's gone in and painted the place anyway. That really has nothing to do with the overall problem, except that if the sale doesn't go down now, she's SOL in regard to the money she's paid already.
The thing is that she always thinks she runs the show, and then when things don't go as planned, Mom and Stepdad always bail her out. They've never allowed her to truly grow up, and once they're gone, she's not going to know how to take care of herself.
This is one instance where I'm so glad I'm exactly like my dad. I'm independent, strong and capable of taking care of myself without the help of others (well, I guess I probably need my husband to some extent, but I have lived on my own and managed my own life previously and did it without any help, so I know I can do it again. I don't think she can...
ANYHOW... that's what I figured out today.