^ what she said. But I also think you need to have a more open conversation with Brad about finances. Do you "budget" for each category of expense? I can't imagine you don't cuz you love tracking and graphing and charting If you have X dollars in the category for eating out - and Brad can easily see that - then he should be just as responsible for saying "no, we don't have the money". You're his wife - not his mom. You're not responsible for telling him "no" --- but you can share the information with him - say, "Brad, we started the month with X dollars for eating out / entertainment - we have X dollars remaining. Are you sure you want to spend them eating out tonight?" You can make it a TEAM effort instead of having it all rest on your shoulders. And when the category says 0 dollars - he can look at that and decide if he wants to overspend in that category or wait until there are funds replenished. But overspending needs to balanced with under spending next pay period - no robbing peter to pay paul!!! That always ends badly!
Finances are by far the worst part of making a marriage work!!!
1. Love ME no matter what noises are screaming at me, or who is trying to tear me down.
2. Eat to heal
3. Move to live
4. Embrace today
5. Live with intention
6. Respect my body
7. Cultivate joy
8. Find my passion
9. Meditate on peace in my soul