Just wanted to express my condolences about your sleep problem.
We too, over here in CA have/had the same problems, so the way we
fixed it, isn't ideal, but it works for us.
My 10yo and I sleep in the same room in twin beds, and my 7yo sleeps
with his father in the master bed.
My 10yo started seeing dead people when he was about 2yo (just like me. great,
runs in the family) so instead of getting woken up 500 times a night, I started
sleeping in his room, then he slept with his father, then when "the baby" came,
I had my own room.
My husband snores too, and there's no way in hell I can sleep with him anyway, so
no big deal. Coudn't care less that we don't sleep in the same bed. Getting quality
sleep is WAY more important than any kind of Parental CoSleeping is. Srsly.
The 7yo doesn't see dead people, (thank GOD) but he does sleepwalk when he sleeps
in his own room, so HE has been sleeping with his father for the past 5 years and I've
been with my son for 8.
It sounds weird and pretty effed up, but I *do* try and tell myself, that it won't last
forever, AND, sleep is so dang important for EVERYONE to function and be in a good mood,
I really don't care WHERE I sleep or in WHAT. I mean really, 44yo sleeping in a twin bed?
Preposterous! But you know what, I love it, and I know I won't get any "surprises" 500 times
a night either. 3 maybe, but that's it.
Not saying you should contemplate it or do it, but if you do, it WORKS.
And if your husband says anything you could just be like "well, I'm up 1500 effing times
anyway, so if you can't beat them, JOIN THEM". Everyone will sleep beautifully!
I -do- get some pretty weird looks when people come to the house and are all "wow, what
are all these beds for? who sleeps where?"
So, I tell them and they think we're whack, but hey, at least I don't beat my kids, prostitute
them out or sell them on the black market, so if sleeping with them makes them more
confident, secure and reassured (my mother would close and LOCK her door when I was
crying in my room seeing ghosts., thanks mom!), then I'm in it for the long haul.
And, as a side note, it gets you out of the marital bed so you're not PAWED 24/7 either. HAR!
In other news, I hope you get your armband computer stuff worked out lickety split!