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[Judg]

You have gotten me reflecting on the nature of hope. I think we have to be unrealistically hopeful to have the courage to get anywhere, in a lot of ways. By acting on that hope, we put ourselves out there and in a position to have good things happen. On the flip side, it hurts so much when hope is disappointed.

So in the context of job-hunting, or anything similar, when the ultimate outcome is out of our control, here are my tentative conclusions:
We can't help but hope that the last interview went well. Telling ourselves not to doesn't work.
So hope away, but immediately after one interview (or even earlier) work towards setting up the next one or two or three, so there is not just one single source of hope in the pipe. That way the no's will be less devastating. Once the interview is over, it might even be best to consider it a no, and transfer our hope to the next ones.

All of this applies to submissions to agents and publishers too, BTW. I had a couple of bad experiences there (not just the normal rejections, I mean) and it really wiped me out. My health was also hitting rock bottom at the time and that was a very toxic combination.

Which is basically a long-winded way of saying "don't put all your eggs in one basket".

[Sabine]

STRESS!

I feel like I have been running from a tiger for three days now.

[Judg]

{{{hugs}}}

[Sabine]

Middlest did something great, which I can't discuss, but am very pleased by. She lifted the whole mood of the house last might in consequence. A welcome relief from the doom and gloom.

I also saw a hilarious picture on Bloodorchid's journal (post #1436 if you are interested) involving a dachshund which brought a smile to my face. Of such things are life built.

[jenn26point2]

Oh I wish you could tell us!! I'm glad she did something so great and you're all so proud! And I'm glad she lifted the mood. I hope it stays elevated!

[Sabine]

Thanks, Jenn. Friends to commiserate when you are down, and celebrate when you are up. Life is good.

[Judg]

Yes, it is. And take it one day at a time. It is so much harder when we dwell in our fears for tomorrow. Do what you can today, and take tomorrow when it comes. We almost always have enough strength for today, and almost never enough to bear all the possible disasters of the future.

[Sabine]

Tomorrow we are visiting with a friend who has her parents to stay. The parents are VERY religiously-based vegetarians(won't even eat vegetarian food that has been prepared in the same space as meat) so I will not be bringing meat to eat. Or even anything to share, just in case. I'm planning on scarfing down a hunk of protein before I go. Most of her food is too spicy for me, though, so I am trying to plan what I can bring that will be easy. I don't want to be stuck in a situation where the only thing bland enough for me to eat is garbanzo beans. All I can think of is cubes of cheese, and nuts. If I were in a better state (mentally and fat-adapted-wise) this would be the perfect time to fast. But I'm not, so I won't.

Do you think it would be too tacky of me to keep an emergency can of sardines in our van, and run down to eat it if I need to?

The new Trader Joe's which just opened up in our town (yesterday!) is very close to her apartment. I might talk my Honey into stopping by after to check it out. It is over on the other side of town, so I cannot foresee shopping there often, but it would be nice to see what they've got.

Littlest is going to a dance tonight. Theme: the 80s. She's wearing a black cowl-neck sweater, hot pink skirt, black leggings. Accessorizing with pink leg-warmers, a pink belt, and pink scrunchie, all of which I made for her out of a thrift-store sweater. And two clunky bead bracelets. She loves planning outfits- for 60s day at school she spray painted a pair of old boots to make white go-go boots, found a patchwork suede mini-skirt, and made a vest and headband to go with it.

[Siobhan]

That's great! The dance outfit. Would love to see that!

I don't think it's tacky at all. In fact I recommend it. It WOULD be tacky to hand out literature detailing how vegetarians play right into the hands of big agribusiness, sabotage local farmers, support monoculture which is killing our planet...oh, and the fact that it is impossible for homo sapiens to get complete nutrition on a veg diet...B-complex vitamins...oh wait, that's me that does that stuff. Sorry.

I wish, I wish, I wish I had a Trader Joe's close by. The nearest one is 1 hour 15 minutes, although we are lucky to have it. Only one in the state of Maine!

[Pebbles67]

Good luck with the food today. That is a very complicated situation. I would stash food in a cooler in your car.

I love the dance outfits. I only have boys. They don't like the school dances.