People that are very strong-willed, strong-minded and don't do well in overly-regulated systems will most likely not choose to be an elementary school teacher. I knew when I volunteered at my youngest son's kindergarten that I never could. Someone got the genius idea to paint lightbulbs, and one kid was running with one in his hand, so I grabbed him by his shirt collar - second nature for me, but public schools don't allow that. You're supposed to convince him to voluntarily do things your way, or maybe have a discussion and come to a consensus about proper behavior and safety and all that... with 6-year-olds.
The desire for a passive male isn't really a female thing, it's more a product of the viewpoint of people that can function in a system like that. I have 2 sons, and they have been taught to defend themselves (and others) regardless of what the school district said. When they were in school, the policy was that defending yourself, even just enough to make the other person stop, was not allowed and was punishable. Bullshit.
So it's not really a female thing, it's a function of the type of personailty that can thrive for 30 years in a public school type of environment, which is overly passive and regulated to the extreme.