The Feminization of Males page 30

[Clabbergirl]

OK, the lady I mentioned- whose husband cheated on her.... She got upset about it because it was "humiliating". Now why, do you ask, was it humiliating? Because all of the neighbors and friends know. Why do they know? She flipped out and told everyone. Why did she do that? It made her the center of attention over the holidays.

One can feel deep humiliation from being cheated on without having told another living soul about it. The humiliation, at least for some, stems from insecurities about themselves and their somehow missing the signs that it was happening/about to happen.

Your friend sounds like she needs a medical checkup (get off the antidepressants?) and a visit to a therapist. Maybe her libido is screwed, or maybe he's a real bastard behind closed doors with a fat bank account. Does she still masturbate, fantasize? Or is it just sex with him that she detests. If it's the latter - we all know what they need to do. Sorry to hear about situations like that...

[quelsen]

“Delusions are often functional. A mother's opinions about her children's beauty, intelligence, goodness, et cetera ad nauseam, keep her from drowning them at birth.”
― Robert A. Heinlein, Time Enough for Love

[quelsen]

Quote Originally Posted by magnolia1973
OK, the lady I mentioned- whose husband cheated on her.... She got upset about it because it was "humiliating". Now why, do you ask, was it humiliating? Because all of the neighbors and friends know. Why do they know? She flipped out and told everyone. Why did she do that? It made her the center of attention over the holidays.


One can feel deep humiliation from being cheated on without having told another living soul about it. The humiliation, at least for some, stems from insecurities about themselves and their somehow missing the signs that it was happening/about to happen.

Your friend sounds like she needs a medical checkup (get off the antidepressants?) and a visit to a therapist. Maybe her libido is screwed, or maybe he's a real bastard behind closed doors with a fat bank account. Does she still masturbate, fantasize? Or is it just sex with him that she detests. If it's the latter - we all know what they need to do. Sorry to hear about situations like that...

Psycologically every trauma we will ever have happened prior to age 7. she would need deep regression therapy to find the source. The easy answer is her mother hated sex. but that leads to a regression of her mother. Another easy target answer is that she was sexually abused by a male as in infant or child. That one is harder to deal with as getting the truth is much harder. a final low hanging fruit here is the child seeing sex and being yelled at for it. IE walking in on the parents. There are several more that spring to mind. but these suffice.

Personally when i encounter these blocks i use an ACT AS IF senario to deal with them, i figure that even if i am wrong i will eventually shot gun the problem.

IE what if i walked into my parents room and saw them copulating and they yelled at me, as an adult how would i interpret that interaction? What do i need to tell my younger self about it? then move on. I have several journal entries that are me writing to my younger self giving me advice to deal with that WHEN, now.

[PookDo]

I wish I knew the answer myself. I think a lot of it had to do with men coming from broken families and being raised mostly by women. The father's weren't around much and a lot of them like my father were too absorbed in their own stuff to be a dad. I spent most of my life thinking I just needed to find the right woman to make my life better. I was wrong and alienated a lot of people. At almost 44 years old I still have yet to learn how to change a tire or the oil in my car but I know thats on me now. Watch Fight Club.

[PookDo]

nah read it- the book has Tyler Durdens method for innovating and distributing Mission Assignments anonymously and in pieces.

I forgot. The book is better. Its why I'm reading Hitchhiker's guide to the Galaxy right now

[Blackcatbone]

no but I saw the beginning as I waited for the Forum to load. It made me wonder if he makes the posts based on what we are talking about on the forum, and to what degree our feedback influences him. I resolved to read it later when I read the sentence, "specialization is for insects," thinking, "Hell yes! Exactly!"

It's a particularly good one, you should definitely read it. But I thought about that too, as I've seen quite a bit of discussion in the "paleo-sphere" (here and elsewhere) about how society was set up. Evolvify has some interesting posts on the topic as well.

the only thing I want my woman to specialize in is games to play with my weiner. Everything else is obviously a shared answer from which both of us can derive reward and enrichment.

Pin the tail on the donkey? Ring around the rosy? Hmmm, I never realized kid's games could sound so dirty.

But seriously, I think specialization leads to sequestering all on its own and leads to many of the perceived differences between the sexes. Obviously, there are still differences, but working side by side, especially on the same tasks, can lead to a kind of camaraderie as can learning things from one another. One of my hobbies is redoing furniture, which I'd always wanted to do but didn't really know where to start until he and I worked together and I picked up or improved skills. He's totally supportive of me learning, shows me how to use different tools. I just bought a chest of drawers this morning that I'm going to take the top off of, replace it with something stone, paint it, cut down the bottom and add steel legs. And Really, we're best friends who happen to have sex.

[curlygirl]

Personally, I like men to look like men and women to look like women. Life is much more beautiful that way imho

[AmyMac703]

Your friend sounds like she needs a medical checkup (get off the antidepressants?) and a visit to a therapist. Maybe her libido is screwed, or maybe he's a real bastard behind closed doors with a fat bank account. Does she still masturbate, fantasize? Or is it just sex with him that she detests. If it's the latter - we all know what they need to do. Sorry to hear about situations like that...

Meh, I never liked sex in high school, wondered why everyone hyped it up so much. Sort of came to assume that sex really was just something women do for men to get them to like us. Then I (finally) figured out I was gay, and everything made a hell of a lot more sense.
Oh, and magnolia, I'm not implying that that's the problem your friend is having, hah, just trying to add some humor to the discussion. All kinds of things -- hormonal imbalances (due to poor diet/lifestyle), birth control, etc, can mess with people's sex drives.

[Chaohinon]

Personally, I like men to look like men and women to look like women. Life is much more beautiful that way imho

Personally, I like blacks to stay in africa and whites to stay in europe. Life is so much more beautiful that way

[ChefGrok]

Personally, I like blacks to stay in africa and whites to stay in europe. Life is so much more beautiful that way

Wait. I. Wait... What?

How can you attack someone's personal feelings with an arbitrary statement? Even if you do quote Chomsky, that still doesn't make any sense.

Unless you're just incredibly ignorant. What was the point you're trying to make?