Moi: I'm 47- married for 18 yrs/together 25 yrs. Three children: 15, 14, 11. Boys on both ends; youngest child has Autism. Stress from that issue alone has messed with my body. Marriage is on the rocks right now, which only adds to it.
I am an eating disorder kid. Spent my 16th birthday in a hospital where the main goal was to put on weight (drink butter out of bottom of vegetable dish or drink Ensure; things like that) Anorexia progressed to bulimia to avoid obvious detection of my problem. Spent 15 yrs enmeshed in calories until my first child was born. Realized it was not all about me any more.
Have always maintained a normal weight. Hit 40 and my body went berzerk. Got teenage acne, undiagnosed rapid heart rate went out of control (PSVT) and my waist disappeared. I weigh within 5lbs range for the past 25 years but clothes fit differently. Most probably understand! Low level depression has dogged me since childhood, but I manage it with diet/exercise/luck. Sugar is my downfall. I don't miss bread at all on the Paleo diet.
Typical diet for past 7 weeks: skip breakfast but drink decaf coffee with either ghee or coconut oil. Lunch is some type of salad with avocado or bacon or leftover meat. Handfuls of nuts or trail mix in afternoon with regular additions of dark chocolate (70% and higher). Little to no fruit; typically dried fruit added to salad. I always keep a Primal Pac in my bag for emergencies. Dinner is lots of roasted or sauteed vegetables with red meat, pork or salmon. Not a fan of chicken, but trying to work on that. I do not count carbs, but thinking I should start. I rarely drink alcohol. If I do, I love tequila.
My goal is not to lose weight, but to gain lean muscle. To this date, I have not lost a pound. To be honest, I feel like my ideal weight is around 3-5lbs less than what I weigh, but I have had weekly 'bad days' with too much chocolate or just eating way too much protein/fat. I can polish off a 16oz steak without a problem. I also snack too much. LOVE nut butters and coconut.
I exercise regularly: 4-6 days/week. Do interval training with friends. I vainly try to keep up with the 30 somethings, and sometimes succeed. I look forward to the day where calories don't leap into my brain while eating, but for now I am still plagued by old habits. Baby steps.