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    Curious if any folks here who are menstruating have any relevant information on PMS. My best PMS/periods were earlier this year, when I was low-carb to battle Candida, but I believe I was also taking Magnesium Chelate at that time. I had very little cramping, a short flow (heavy-ish for the first two days, tapered off, only 5 days long), no binge/sugar craving issues. The past two months have been awful for me. Very heavy flow for the first two days, tapering off for 7 days total, terrible cramping and nausea to the point that I almost stayed home from work even on the 4th day. I had strong sugar cravings, and bloating, though that may be because I gave in to the cravings! This was worse than any period I've had on the SAD, except for the flow (prior to oral birth control when I was 13-18, the flow was like this).

    Could it be the magnesium, or am I screwed as long as I'm eating moderate-carb (in the form of tubers and fruits)?
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    Quote Originally Posted by bakers3 View Post
    Hi all! I have read through this whole thread and thought I would jump in and introduce myself!

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    Welcome, Keri! And from a fellow Oregonian - Welcome home in 5 weeks!
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    @RitaRose- those are really good suggestions. I don't do much dairy or eggs. Although I don't have an "allergy"' they do keep the weight on me. They are better than fast food though, so I may try to have them just one day a week and do meats or olives the rest. Thanks again for the ideas!

    Leida and sbhikes, I read both posts and feel the frustration. Why as women do we have such issues with body image? Sbhikes, I see your pic and your stats and think, "wow, I would love to be there!" Leida, I'm not sure about yours, but by the measurements you posted, you are much smaller than I am. However, I understand that you both are not feeling as comfortable in your own skin as you want to be, therefore you are still working hard and looking for answers, even if that entails reading Jillian Michaels I suffer with the same feelings and it transfers in the form of insecurity into a big portion of my life. Even when I got to my smallest size and weight in my adult life I was feeling it. Still saw the fat and imperfections. Now I'm 25 pounds heavier than that and you can imagine the mental struggle.

    I guess all that is to say I feel your frustration. I'm there with you. Holding on to hope as a 41 year old woman that I will figure it out.

    Welcome Keri! Great start and keep it up!

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    OH - the frustrations of body image! I look at my body in the mirror and wonder what ever happened to my pre-pregnancy/pre-40/pre-menopausal/pre-fibromyalgia..... body!!!! UGH! bags and sags that didn't used to be there! will I EVER be able to look in the mirror and LIKE what I see??? No........... I won't. Cuz what I want to see is a perfectly toned body with not one single imperfection! And thats not likely to happen this side of heaven. But - will I be content with what I see? I believe I will. I will get down to the weight that will make me say - Ok, thats fine. I'm very anxious to get to that place. I have a long way to go.
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    The numbers say I am small, but the mirror shows the sag and drag and flop. That's the problem. The numbers CW beats into our heads, BMI, normal weight range, inches, sizes... they make you believe that you will look good if you just lose a few (or a lot) of lbs. But that's just not the case. That's why I feel so down when I catch my look in the mirror after I was so pumped up after doing something cool in the gym. It is not skinny or small that I want so badly. It is tight and defined. If I ever find the way to get there prior to kicking the bucket, I swear I am going to write a book: "Pear-Shaped and Middle-Aged: There is Hope."

    But for now, I need all the mental stamina I can gather to stop questioning. Because I will be Okay looking (just like now) if I am fatter, like 10-15 lbs fatter. So, why all the food exclusions? See, i don't mind training, in fact I love it. It's the necessity to not eat this or that in an endless and desperate attempt to get the fat off that is really hard for me.
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    Perfectionism can be a real tormentor. It's such a tricky thing to find the balance between giving up too easily and driving ourselves crazy with unrealistic goals. God grant me the serenity to accept the things I can not change, the courage to change the things I can, and the wisdom to know the difference... So, so true.

    I am trying to accept that my body will never be in its 20s again, and it can't possibly be as tight and firm as it once was. (Briefly. Very briefly.) But at least I can make it better. An appreciative husband helps a lot. But I will still want to get a tummy tuck when I've finished losing. There is no exercise in the world that will remove excess skin and while losing slowly has probably helped in that department, I was too stretched for too long for it all to shrink back on its own.

    I think a healthier key word for all of us is balance, not perfection. And accepting that it is possible to be beautiful and happy without being perfect.

    Once when I was a student, I stopped in the office of one of my profs after the semester to find out if he'd finished grading yet. He told me it was my paper that was the problem. If he compared it to an ideal perfect paper worth a 5 (we were on a 0-5 scale), he couldn't possibly give me a 5. (This was literature, not science. You can always think of something else you could have said.) But if he compared it to all the other papers he gave a 4 to, he couldn't possibly give me a 4. You see, same dilemma. We will never measure up to an abstract ideal. There is always something that could be better. But we can still be one fine chunk of womanhood. In the end, he gave me the 5...

    So I will measure myself, not against an impossible ideal, but against where I have been for so many years. I am a clear winner there. I am healthier, I can wear normal-sized clothes, anybody who has known me in the past years is impressed, and I have even fielded a couple of compliments from people meeting me for the first time, and my husband just about pops his shirt buttons off when he's present for one of those compliments. Heck, he even repeats them back to me. I think there's enough material there to make me happy. Yes, I could give you a list of all the things that are wrong with my body, and it wouldn't be a short one, but what for? I'm not a movie star, I don't have to worry about tabloids publishing the worst photos of me they can find. Clothing hides most of the defects, and the one who sees me naked isn't complaining. I will be happy. I will still fix what I can, but I refuse to torment myself.

    And you know what? When I look back at the pictures of me when I was young at this weight, I think I looked fatter then. I must carry it better somehow now. Or maybe we subconsciously cut more slack for middle-aged women. Who knows? I know where I was three years ago. I know where I am now. Now is better. I will be happy.
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    AMEN AMEN AMEN Judg!!!!!!!! So true and very well written. Brought tears to my eyes.

    In a profession where people are supposed to be fit, I struggle with the image I portray. I work as a resistance stretching trainer and kettlebell coach. We moved to CA to pursue where we felt God was telling us to go. Most people here in the business are fit. I can throw some weight around and know my stuff, but I'm not 5'10" and 120 pounds. I feel that's what people want, not the 41 year old with (managed) fibromyalgia, cellulite, heaviest weight was around 230. I know what it's like to be there, but can't get those images and feelings out of my head. I guess because I haven't reached and maintained my goal, so I still feel like a failure. I have landed a fantastic opportunity (hence the above posts about travel food) as a trainer for an Olympic hopeful. I'm good at what I do, but the body image seeps into every part of my life and causes me to doubt my qualifications and capabilities.

    I'm going to print your post out and read it daily! it is so true that we need to not try to live up to an unrealistic standard.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Pamsc View Post
    I was not expecting your story to turn out the way it did--the Mirena worked for me. I hope you can find what will work for you!
    thanks, me too. lol. it has been a week since the iud came out and i am 7 pounds lighter, even with a few nights of consuming wine and attending a less-than-primal-wedding on saturday. i did have a fairly heavy flow wednesday and thursday but as of saturday that's all finished. who knows though, that could start up again any minute.

    there is also the possibility that these last few horrid months were actually the worst of times as far as my pre-menopause goes? it's all so inexact and variable and doctors don't know much more than we do, ya know?

    most importantly though is my mental state: i feel almost like the old noodle. everyday. not just one day out 5. i don't feel anxious or sad or black or empty. i'm feeling full of laughter and social again.

    phew.

    am shopping for a naturopath to do a more all-around repair job and avoid any cw medical intervention if possible.

    we shall see.
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    Judg -- very well said! Thank you! I'm not happy with the image in the mirror - but I am making my peice with it.
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    See, and that is exactly what bugs me. The idea that being attractive is unrealistic. Why is the desire to have the efforts put in the gym pay off as the fit reflection in the mirror to the level of shameful vanity or mental disease or something else abnormal? Are we accept the idea that time spent will net us abstract "better health", but shy away from the proof positive of it that you can see clear as day, as beautiful deltoid, trim waist and slender legs? I just fail to see what is so healthy about saggy thighs... If someone went to the Uni, and went through 3 years, and dropped out, and said it was good enough for them won't we all be thinking internally that it is weird to put all this time in, and walk out without the degree? Not to put a little bit more effort? Would we believe that the person really lacks brain-power to finish 8 more courses in Year 4? Obviously, you can't grow 5 inches taller, but losing 2 inches off the waistline shouldn't be impossible, no? Particularly when plenty others did it?
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