[QUOTE=TigerLily;623434...about 25% are spending less. It's because we're not eating out, descending upon the vending machines at work, going for 7-11 raids at midnight, and also just our bodies require less food volume-wise now.
Anyway, is the money his legitimate concern ... or is that just his excuse? Lots of partners are so resistant and will try to sabotage when the other begins to change and improve their life. (Been there, done that.) If so, once you can prove you are spending the same or even less, he'll just come up with another excuse at that point and will whine you to death.[/QUOTE]
Money is a legitimate concern - we had some high expenses this year and need to build our "lost my job" fund back up by 8k. So that's a real worry, but we are addressing it in other ways, like cutting back on Yule presents for each other and trying not to impulse shop.
Part of the problem with the increased food bill is that we were extremely thrifty before - no snacks, ate out twice a week or less, no sodas, spending $2/person or less on rice- or pasta-based dinners at home (we didn't buy meat except for the occasional ground turkey). Our weekly protein came mainly from the meals out. So primal snacks (nuts) are an added expense, we aren't saving anything on reducing sodas or junk food, and the Primal diet is more expensive than the mediterranean diet we were eating, because protein costs more than carbs.
But in the last week I found both nuts and meat on sale, and although we always buy groceries on "house" money, I threw in "personal" money and H. was much better than I expected about a $70 grocery bill.
As far as resistance and sabotage, I think there is some of that, based on his fear that he will have to eat the same way. I haven't said anything to him (he remained thin on the med. diet) about the possible danger of adding fat and protein on top of a high carb diet. If I lose weight and he gains, he might be willing to make the switch.