(((((((((((HUGS)))))))))))))))))))) I've had fibro/CFS/Chronic EBV since I was 17, and IBS my whole life, so I totally get what you are saying. Going off gluten was HUGE for me, even though it was so hard. I find that beef, mostly commercial beef, and nightshades can cause inflammation as well. Some days I feel like I can't eat anything and other days I cannot believe how amazingly satisfying a salad and fish can be.
I'm also a mom. I have one child, but believe me, she's enough! She is very energetic, bouncing off the walls. She is only 4, but can easily run a half-mile and then hop another half home. Somedays I cannot do much and we watch movies all day- enter mommy guilt.
Things are getting better. :-)
PS I grew up a Navy brat, so I totally get the military lifestyle. Thankfully, we were able to travel as a family, so my dad was never gone very long.