Ignore your calorie counts. Drink the milk if you want it, or not, if you don't. Dairy causes stalls for some, but I wouldn't worry about that just yet. Eat primal food until you are no longer hungry, then stop. If you are hungry between meals, eat more fat and protein at your meals. If you are thirsty, drink water. Tea and coffee are okay, if the caffeine doesn't bother you and you don't use sweeteners.
Get your sleep in order, as best as you can. Poor sleep can stall weight loss.
Breastfeeding/halting breastfeeding has a whole lot of hormonal issues going on that your body is going through. (Increased appetite, need for sleep, need for nutrition).
Finally, you've been on a whole foods way of eating for a month, and when did you give up grains? Some people have a longer transition period, and some people have a longer healing period before they start losing weight. With the breastfeeding transition on top of it, you have more going on there than most do, and may need a bit more time.
Relax. Eat well, and get lots and lots of sleep. Let your body stabilize and heal. You said you feel much better- just wait, 'cause your body isn't done feeling better. You are doing things correctly so far, so keep going.