Josh, I read this whole thread.
I believe my father has aspberger's although I do not know if he has ever been tested or diagnosed. All through my life growing up he had an obsession with diet. He's 74 years old and still does. Part of the reason for that had to do with child abuse when he was a kid, but it really wouldn't matter in the end what the reason was. Food, diet and health issues were simply one of his many interests.
He always ate a totally different meal than we did as I was growing up. It drove my mom nuts and they fought a lot. Dinner was always a very tense time in our house. Nobody spoke to each other and hatred burned in the air. If there is one thing about my childhood that still makes me sad, it is that.
My dad read lots of diet books and drove us all nuts as he preached and printed out articles and asked us all the time if we read them. He was really ahead of his time when it came to insulin resistence and dietary fat and all that. None of us listed to him. He was so different from normal people how could we not think he was nuts? It didn't seem to upset him as much as it upsets you but I have no idea how he felt inside.
The thing is, here he is 74 years old and winning races in his age group and it turns out all these years maybe he knew a few things. He lived his life and we've all lived ours. Everything works out somehow in the end. It's only cheerios. Just be the best you can be, live to be 74 winning races in your age group. When your kids are in their 40s they'll have a healthy dad they can be proud of.
Female, 5'3", 50, Max squat: 202.5lbs. Max deadlift: 225 x 3.