I hear ya SerialSinner. Women were built to have extra meat, for sure. It's for our child-bearing ability.
I just think perception is skewed with people close to us.
I just went SUPER dark brunette (near black) and I've been a blond my entire life. Strangers tell me it looks natural and to never go back to blond. Acquaintances like it. Family members, however, STILL have not said ONE nice thing (or bad), which I assume is that they're not used to it and/ or don't like it.
"Too close to the forest to see the trees".