I am sorry about your marriage situation. I am going through similar feelings. My husband thinks everything is just great. He has a sexy, vibrant wife and is getting it regularly. BUT as much as I love him and the life we have built together, I get more and more tired of his impatience, temper and his lack of willingness to make real changes that would make both of us happier. Yes, he pays lip service to changing his eating, but he doesn't make many moves. I know that it is hypocritical of me knowing my history, but that is the way I feel. I think there is just a lot of water under the bridge, times in our history when he has treated me badly. I guess I need to work on my lack of forgiveness.
For all of the above reasons, he is the one person that can send me into a binge even if I feel strong and have had a perfect day. I have to stop giving him that power.