Thanks Ruth! DS and I stopped at Trader Joes for dinner stuff so I made a huge salad with a nice piece of fish. Then strawberries with sour cream mixed with a bit of stevia. Drinking lemon water now and stuffed to the gills. So no more room for food! And yes eating more will make matters worse. I will still be worried and then I will also feel physically crappy.
I have already decided that our next mattress will be 2 twins. I plan to put foam between them and then put memory foam and feather bed on the whole thing. I did this in our spare room and it is the best bed we have slept in together it really does mitigate the partner's movements. We have a sleigh bed frame so we are going to make it look like a king (so we will have to get XL twin as the regular twin is 4" shorter and I know this from having done the upstairs bed!).