Chris, I think we are raising the same son. lol
I want to encourage you to hang in there. I know you don't want to spend any more money on diet books, but if you can borrow it from a library, you should read "It Starts with Food".
I know that we have talked about how much we love our AS, but I truly believe that cutting them and all sugars was the key to my food issues. I will not be adding them back at the end of 30 days.
I don't think it was dairy because I am still using reg. butter and heavy cream. The only dairy I cut was cheese. Ha Ha "cut the cheese".
Anyway, what could it hurt to try. The Whole9 blog is running an official August Whole30. All of the info on the program can be found there, I just think the book explains things extremely well.
Have a great day, my friend.