The other thing I realized that I forgot to write is that I think I could learn to be happy without kids too. At this point, I'm comfortable waiting and seeing where our life together goes. If it's just not practical later down the line, then we'll have money to go towards other things and to indulge in nieces, nephews, and friend('s kids). I am sure I would mourn later on if we didn't feel like we could make it work, but it's a decision I feel like I could live with too. Before, when I imagined waiting till 35 to have kids, I just felt sad. With the perspective of taking my time to curate a career and be able to afford to stay at home for a while, I am at peace with the idea.