The approach you use with pumpkin also works with shy dogs and I think with kids! It's best not to look at either just be near them with calm energy, eventually they get curious and come and check you out. My terrier will always back away if she thinks you "want" her. She comes to sit on my lap because I never try and get her to. My son laments that she won't jump up on his lap, I tell him that's because he's trying to get her to do it.
Life is death. We all take turns. It's sacred to eat during our turn and be eaten when our turn is over. RichMahogany.