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    I had a feral cat once. My ex loves cats and had noticed her outside as a kitten, obviously having no home. He tried to coax her inside but she couldn't make herself do it. Until it started to snow really hard one and he heard scratching at his bedroom door. It was an exterior door that no one used. He opened it, she came flying inside and essentially only came out at night for a long time. Men's footsteps scared her, as did any attempt at direct eye contact or touch. You were not touching this cat, lol. When we started dating, she had been there a couple of months and only came out to eat at night and he couldn't get near her.

    I was a bartender so was around during the day. I was lying on his bed reading a book, one that you spend all day reading. Her curiosity slowly overcame her anxiety and I could feel her peering around the room (she had been hiding under the bed). I waited and just kept reading and didn't look at her or try to touch her. She jumped on the bed and then I looked at her. Her ears flattened and she dove back under the bed again. Sigh. It had taken her 2 hours to get on the bed. So I went back to my back and decided not to move at all. She came back out after 30 minutes and jumped on the bed. I did not look or move, except to keep reading.

    Ha, she kept sneaking closer until she was about 3 feet away and she just sat, staring at me. I snuck another look and then looked away and she didn't run. We were on that bed for hours playing at stalemate. My back hurt so badly but I knew stretching would frighten her again. Eventually, without looking at her, I moved my hand out and let it sit there. She came over and sniffed it, then bumped her head against it. I just slowly held my fingers open and she basically pet herself on my hand for a while before something scared her again. But after that, I'd do the same thing of waiting for her to come to me and it took less and less time for her to get the courage. Then, I'd be more active petting her, but letting her control how much. It took a couple of months but she became a normal member of the house, hanging out in the daytime and was glued to me at night. She still didn't like heavy footsteps, but patience and letting her guide the integration was important. She also became the most affectionate of the cats, like once she broke the dam and trusted someone to pet her, she couldn't get enough.

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    Jenn, thanks for that. Feral definitely has a huge negative connotation which is why we were pissed about it. That is also probably why the shelter didn't use the term. The shelter did not catch her, some rescue organization in Virginia did, and then she got sent to MA for some reason. Pumpkin doesn't hiss or growl, just crawls away to small spaces, so you're probably right. She's not truly feral, but could have been if she'd been there longer (or maybe had a different disposition).

    Thanks Zanna. Pumpkin is coming out a lot at night (she was clawing at a box last night and kept me from falling asleep), but she will explore during the day if we hang out and stay relatively still. She walked across Hulky's legs (on the bed) the other day when he was in there reading. She's definitely progressing. I'll tell Hulky to walk softer when he's in the room and maybe we won't try any petting for now, just keeping company.

    We have to get the rug out of there to vacuum so fleas don't make a home ><.
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    Her ear being clipped tells she was a feral cat, at least that's what they do in my area when they sterilize stray/feral cats.
    You can try food grade DE both internally & externally for the fleas/worms. Also, sprinkle where the cats sleep.
    Check out a site called wolfcreekranch for some good info on DE.
    Best of luck w your new kitty
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    Ps.....DE's super cheap and you can sprinkle on the rug and vacuum up some so it's also working in the vac canister/bag.
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    http://wolfcreekranch1.tripod.com/di...rth_fleas.html

    You can usually buy it at your local hardware store for $10/gallon.

    Just look for food grade NOT the pool stuff.



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    Nameless Wonders: One year later - Boston Marathon Bombing

    This is all too real today. I feel emotionally fragile. I wish I was home.

    After work yesterday, I went cycling and logged 8.3 miles. That is very close to a whole day's commute, so I'm nearly ready to start! I'd like to log at least one more trip that's a little further, or at least the whole commute (8.6 miles? I think?) before I start to bicycle to work. I might just start with 3 days a week. My legs feel great, not really sore at all. I could have gone farther yesterday, but it was VERY gusty out and I was annoyed at having to fight through the wind. I'm amazed at how well my body has picked this back up.

    Hulky made pizza from scratch with his mom's help. They came out perfect! Definitely the best he's made yet. I had several slices. I've been eating a bit of wheat every few days lately. It definitely makes my gut gurgle more than other foods, but my response isn't bad with my digestion behaving as well as it is. I think I am getting a few pimples (on my body, not my face) in response though. Hulky's mom's half had onions & mushrooms, ours has pepperoni and mushrooms. C came over and had pizza too, then Hulky and C did physics together.



    I got almost all of the dishes cleaned up before bed, but was too tired and forgot about making lunch.

    I took both Theanine Serene and Benadryl last night. I had two nightmares. I woke up at some point in the night feeling overheated, it was very warm last night. This morning, I was pretty groggy.

    Too bad the nice weather isn't going to last. It's rainy today. It's going to cool off a bit for the rest of the week. I hope I don't have to turn the heat back on.

    I need to get more rice milk and oatmeal tonight. If it's not rainy after work, I can bike over to Trader Joes with a backpack.
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    Fitocracy doesn't have a great interface for looking at past activities. This was my cycling to and from work last year. At the left end is a longer trip I did when I was "training". I don't remember that trip. At the right end are the trips I've taken this season. Actually, it only shows yesterday's trip. I guess it didn't sync with RunKeeper for the 6.3 mile trip last week.

    Females issues update: I've been using the probiotic I picked up (as a vaginal suppository) for 4-5 nights. I think it might be improving things. I'm definitely less itchy than last week. I hope my gyno doesn't think I'm crazy for trying this. i want to keep using it for a full week, maybe two or even longer, to see if symptoms continue to improve. I'd like to get the "next step" from the gyno though, to use in case this doesn't actually work, so I can start that whenever I'm ready.
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    Muscle memory is why you have bounced back so quickly. Your body adapted last summer and remembers how to do it now.

    PS, great blog post.
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    Gee - I hope that muscle memory kicks in for me when I get back in gear and start exercising again!
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    I've never really had muscle memory before, but I've never been as active as I was last summer either! I really didn't think about it much at the time, it became "routine" to bike to work. Until I fell out of the routine with the move to the new apartment.

    Poor Hulky. The depression is stable with the Wellbutrin, but we found out today that he is not yet ready to go to appointments on his own. He had a counseling session scheduled for today and was going to go into Boston by himself. He felt like he was going to puke as he got ready to leave the house. I don't know how to help him. I am afraid I'll run out of PTO before we can get this all in order. I think he REALLY needs to find a counselor nearby so it's not such a trek to talk to someone, and visit them weekly for a bit. We also need him to go back to his regular doc next week for another Lorazepam refill and say a) it's helping him sleep but b) he has anxiety attacks when trying to go to school (for counselling sessions or meetings) on his own. I will likely have to take him to that doctor's appointment. He is nowhere near being caught up enough with school work for Incompletes before the end of the month. Just about 2 weeks left... I feel like I've been coping okay, but the stress of this whole situation is catching up with me today. I don't know how to help him any more than I am right now.
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