Understood. My therapist keeps saying, "Understanding goes a long way." We are going to couples therapy so we can learn a new way to communicate to each other in non-harmful ways. I am hoping that this will lead to us being about to check in with each other before having potentially upsetting discussions. Even just a, "Hey, I wanted to talk to you about this thing. Is now a good time?" would be really helpful, I think. If we can understand just a bit more about where the other is coming from, it will make it easier for us to stick to a decided method of communication. That's the hope anyway.
 I guess what I'm saying is I don't expect him to understand the illness, but it would help if he could understand how I might respond. I don't know, it's hard to explain.