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  1. #4861
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    Hey, hang in there. Hulky's almost home.

    Moving is stressful. I absolutely hate it. Do you have anyone who can help you move all that furniture? Sometimes you need two guys to help you if you have big furniture.

    As for the honeymoon fund--do you think people haven't contributed because you guys didn't have an official wedding? I know you surprised everyone by getting married at your engagement party. I have friends who asked for money (essentially a honeymoon fund) instead of wedding gifts, and it's usually worked out. But they did have official weddings and wedding registries where the guests were able to contribute money.

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    Oh yeah, people will be helping me move! I'm just getting the little stuff done on my own so the official moving day is just whatever I needed to get by for the last week or few days. Plus the bed I've been sleeping on haha. I need to talk to C, my brother in law, my father in law, and my dad about helping this weekend and the 31st. Just...orchestrating that is now stressing me out. If I could do it all myself, I would!

    At the party, we handed out cards with our wedding website URL on it and told people about the honeymoon registry. A few friends said they "didn't see the registry link" when they went to the site, but it's there, I checked the settings to make sure it wasn't turned off somehow. So maybe some people are just stupid/reading too fast and others forgot. Still sad because it's not really the kind of thing you can remind people about.
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    You know, if you had a wedding party, you could remind them. You can never have too many parties!

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    Quote Originally Posted by diene View Post
    You know, if you had a wedding party, you could remind them. You can never have too many parties!
    We were going to have a larger reception thing in a couple of years...but that's a couple of years. We don't have any $$ for a party right now. There will probably be some kind of get together just with friends after we move into our new place, since we usually don't have to pay for anything (people pitch in for food, or we could potluck it, and we do booze runs once everyone is there). I am just lamenting. I don't think there's anyway I can talk about it without either sounding greedy, like a bitch, or pathetic. All of which I probably am!

    I am way too negative today.
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    I feel your frustration with the honeymoon. Brad's and my honeymoon was solely dependent on wedding gifts as well. I was concerned about not having enough money to go on our honeymoon (our honeymoon was estimated to cost just under $2,000). We barely squeaked in enough money, but we did it and it was a good time. My FIL promised us that we'd get our honeymoon. Have you spoken to your family about it?

    I'm with diene on this one. Maybe everyone was planning to donate but the spur of the moment wedding threw them off and they aren't ready to give? Like they thought they had more time before they were expected to provide a gift. Try to be patient.
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    Some people have mentioned that we should tell them when we're planning, so I think they're waiting to donate closer to our actual honeymoon? Of course, we can't really plan with $0. I don't know if I should say something once we do start looking into options, but we seriously CAN'T book anything unless we get monetary gifts. There's no way we could save up enough and pay off our medical bills before December. I figured we look at Groupon in December-ish and book for his spring break in March. I might mention it to my mom and see what she says... but I'm not sure if my parents contributing would forego any assistance for a future party. Fuck money. I don't want to think about it anymore.

    I am full of anxiety today. It sucks. I have not felt this bad in quite a while. At least that's a silver-lining: it's been a while.
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    Hugs sweetie.
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    Aw. Chip was just like, "I figured me and Dad would move everything tomorrow and just carry it down the street." Those Hulkys, such good dudes. I think I'll have my parents over in the AM to help move some smaller things & patch up the walls.

    Dinner tonight with my folks. If my asparagus has not gone bad, I will bring that over to grill. My mom is making wings and I will suffer the consequences of any sauce she puts on it. I need a mental break.

    Just another hour before I can reasonably split...
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    You have a great supportive family.

    That's the kind of response we'd get out of Brad's dad. He's always there when we need a hand. It's good to have someone you can count on.
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    Because I'm all a mess today it made me teary-eyed. I am constantly amazed at the support I get from Hulky and his family. I know my family loves me and tries to do their best for me, but I never feel like they'd drop everything to be there for me. Maybe it's just old wounds, or maybe it really is that way. I don't know.
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