Canio, you raise a good point... I don't say anything to Brad about what he eats anymore, but on the same token, I also don't provide anything I don't want him to eat. We haven't had chips in our house in so long I can't remember when we last had them. I stopped buying fruit snacks for the kids b/c I didn't want them eating them. I can't control what they eat at other peoples' houses so they get plenty of fruit snacks at MIL's house. At home, as long as I'm cooking, they get wholesome, healthy, mostly primal meals. That's all I can control - easily and without a great deal of stress.
I see Nameless doing this same thing and she's just thinking out loud about what she's needing to pick up at the store, but doesn't know what to pick up b/c he hasn't said what he wants. That's how I read it. I didn't read it as her being upset with him for choosing poor snack foods, just that she didn't know what to get him so she's not getting him anything right now.
I understand your sentiment about nagging too... when we nag, they buck us and do exactly as we DON'T want them to do - just like children. I don't nag Brad anymore. It does me no good. He's a big boy and can make his own decision. However, like I said, I don't buy junk food anymore, so if he's going to eat it, he has to go buy it himself. He's coming around though and keeps elluding that he wants to lose weight and try a whole30 since he's seen it work so well for me and his sister.
Hulky just isn't at a place where he thinks there's a problem with what he eats, I think, and there's nothing wrong with that... of course, down the road there MIGHT be an issue, but most people are reactive instead of proactive.