THANK YOU NK!!!! You just reminded me of how badly I want to roast a beastie on a spit (I keep telling my parents to do this for Easter). My grandmother's property has a few open spaces (otherwise 40-50 acres of woods), some that would be PERFECT for that. Planned ahead, we could even have the beast raised at a local farm. Boyfriend's dad has a smoker (though we'd have to get it up there) and I'm sure a neighbor has a decent sized grill. I could ask my sister to be in charge of vegetables haha (token vegans are useful for some things).
I'm not inclined towards decorations. I'm bad at planning that kind of thing anyway. If we had a Fall wedding (my seasonal inclination), the foliage would be lovely enough, but seriously, anytime of year I'd be happy with. And yeah, a non-wedding wedding dress is more like me anyway. I just want something purty.