Wait- he scared you and you're concerned about him being confused? Psh- he can stay confused until you've done what you need to unconfuse yourself. He'll get over it. Or not. You are your concern right now.
He's not all you've got. Ok, so I'm kinda far away, but we have a couch that could handle a surfer for a while if that's something you need. I know he's important, and I know you want to work this out, and I WANT you to work it out if you can- but don't forget that no matter what the situation, there is ALWAYS another option. Sometimes it's better, sometimes it's worse, but it's always there.