I hope the boyfriend is ok and that his depression passes. Is he on any medication or did he stop using it too?
Congratulations on the raise! Exciting news! And what a huge jump too! The only way I know of to estimate the new income is to take the old income (before tax) and multiply by 1.12 (for the 12% increase). that'll give you your new pretax pay, but I don't know how to figure in the take home pay. There are calculators online you can use to do that, but they don't consider all of the variables like insurance, etc.
i liked your facebook post about "I'm posting what I want, deal with it". I thought it was great and it gave me the courage to not be so worried about seeing self-riteous and whatnot when posting about my weight loss, health improvements, etc. Brag on, girl!