i don't think the chick in question is thinking "oh, what void can i fill in this guy's life? oh i know, i can be his friend!!" For whatever reason, he doesn't fill that "wanna bang?" void for her; so he can accept that she wants nothing more out of the relationship and move on. If he doesn't want more female friends, no one's holding a gun to his head. Grow some balls: "sorry, i don't want to be just friends." Chances are, there are women who know him and are stuck "in the friendzone" and he just doesn't realize it because he doesn't equate them with sex. it goes both ways. accept it and move on, figure out what you're doing wrong.
in which case move on?
yeah you are
Build a man a fire and he's warm for a day. Set a man on fire and he's warm for the rest of his life.
ah. then the dude's not being up front. he can accept that he's not getting into her pants and just be friends, or he can decide he doesn't want more female friends and be upfront: "not interested in just friendship." she can take it or leave it and they both move on (or get it on, she might change her mind). this whole "friendzone" thing is just as much his fault as it is his. she's not some prize to attain, either she's into him or she's not. doing her favors and listening to her kvetch about her love life isn't getting him any closer (if that's even the case here). apparently she has made her intentions for the relationship obvious.
Last edited by Saoirse; 07-17-2012 at 01:21 PM.
probably not. i've only been romantically involved with one, so maybe i'm clueless. what is it that i'm missing?
I was speaking more to young guys.
And yes, it would be awesome if guys were just up front but "Hi, I am going to be your friend in the hopes I get laid" sounds creepy. It's true, it just comes across wrong. Kind of like how "I am not really interested but you buy me stuff so will do until I can get better" doesn't come across well. So dude tries to be nice and the gets friendzoned. As such, I am just putting out that public service message...ladies, if he is young and single and you are too, he wants to get laid; he does not want to be your friend/buddy/brother/etc.
*edit: unless by friend you are using Darth's definition.