thanks for speaking up. i'm rapidly losing respect for many of the people commenting in this thread.
specifically, to which traditional roles are you referring? H/G groups were highly egalitarian. most cultures have had defined roles for men and women, but those roles varied to a great extent between cultures. in some cultures, cooking is a man's task. in others, men would rather starve than cook for themselves. think about a more Hebraic culture. women were constantly out of the home, tending gardens, trading at the markets, working at the loom. men spent most of their day at the synagogue learning. they had almost no economic significance to the family; the burden was on the wife.We have the resources and the technology to manipulate those resources to such a degree that, yes, the traditional roles of men and women are becoming obsolete, at least on the surface of things. But those traditional roles have been in place since before humans were humans. There is some serious neural hardwiring going on that a few decades can't possibly undo.
when there are kids in the house and two parents working, it's likely that everyone will be stressed. some people make this work, most can't. it's usually the woman who stays home, but it's becoming more common for the man to do this. my husband has more earning potential, so we decided that i would stay home. it's also easier for women to DUE TO OUR CULTURE, but that doesn't mean that the woman SHOULD.I may have mentioned before that I don't know of too many happy marriages, but the ones I do know of invariably have a strong leader and able provider doing a job he loves as the husband, and a home-loving nurturer as the wife (and they have three or four kids). The majority of the unhappy marriages I know of have both partners working, and the man unable to satisfy the woman mentally or sexually (usually because he is so damn overworked, but in one case he's just an ass).
do you have kids? are you keeping a household? i have been raising kids at home, "tending the hearth" for almost a decade. please come back once you've had that experience and say it's all peachy-keen. gender inequality doesn't matter quite so much when it's novel and optional (trust me, i've been in your shoes with your attitude), but when your livelihood is dependent on another person because you're taking care of the children, it's a whole 'nother ballgame.I realize it might seem archaic to most women, probably horrifying, but I have found I garner far more respect from a man when I acknowledge our differences; my weaknesses and his strengths, and instead of trying to overcompensate or make him feel bad for being stronger than me, let him be stronger. In turn, he respects my strengths in other areas and lets me help him there without ever feeling like I'm belittling him. The balance that is so often lacking in relationships is easy to find, it happens when a woman embraces being a woman and stops trying to be a man and when a man embraces being a man and stops apologizing for not being a woman. I'm not going to get mad at a guy I'm dating for not having the same emotional reaction to something as I do, if I want a females opinion, I'll call my mother. I guess I'm a brainwashed fool because I want to be a girl and to be treated as something that you need to be a little more gentle with and should be cherished.I'm not fragile, I'm not weak, and I'm not lazy, but you can carry the firewood inside for me,you can open the door for me,you can even reach something on the top shelf so I don't have to get a step stool and climb, I find no insult in it. I know men are perfectly capable of cooking and keeping house, but it comes naturally to me, I find joy in doing it, so I'd rather do that. Just like I'm sure some guys would rather chop down a tree then make a decorative edge on a pie crust. More power to you if you like a crumb topping, I like chopping wood, but I'm sure not as fast at it as my SO.